I posted in august about the background,but it's on the gen board. Anyway two obs have been living with their dad for the school year. He has a lot of back cs many years worth. Which was an issue which we worked out. So there was a mistake made by the irs and bd called me as he said "i saw the balence drove to a parking spot and called you". We worked out what we would do so he was protected,i won't get into details. But it was a relief that it wasn't a big deal for each of us to do what was right.