Ok, so I am in a relationship with someone I've known for over 10 years... We dated briefly in High School and over the years have recently gotten back together. Since then she had given birth to a Daughter whom is now 3, pushing 4 in a few short months. She and I had gotten back together at the start of this year and I've since lived with her and her Daughter for the past 2 months.

This entire situation confuses me and frustrates me beyond previous levels in my life. This child feels entitled to WHATEVER it is that she wants and freaks the F*** out when told she is not allowed. She is rude to me, tells me to go home, to go away, that she doesn't like me, and then at the very next turn says that she loves me, and then that she hates me. I've never lived with a child of this age before, and am eternally confused as to how I should be going about this seemingly delicate situation. I just hate feeling like I'm walking on thin ice with ankle weights.

Oh, and the BioDad, as well as really any other adult in this child's life except for her Mother, allows her to tantrum until they give her what she wants, making it even MORE difficult for Mom 'n' Me to reverse that train of thought. BioDad BARELY takes her for visitations, making poor excuses to leave her in the dust of his life. I just don't know if I should be intervening or if I should be standing back and letting Mom and "Dad" to do the raising...

Any advice offered would be gratefully appreciated.

Thanks for reading