If you have BioKids with DH/DW...
Do you leave DH/DW home with BioKids and SKids at the same time if you are working?
I ask - I work over nights and we have SD7 EO Sat night and one entire sunday a month. I will be working ONE Sat night every six weeks, and I don't want to blatantly tell DH that I'd rather him and DS be home together for some quality time, besides the fact that I don't think I'd trust SD7 with DS. (Just watching her with her BS1 at her mom's - calling her a 'beast', telling DH that if her little sister touches her stuff she will 'beat her like a pinata', etc..). I want to stress the point that I believe him and DS should have that night together without me or SD7 so they can have a little extra 'bonding' time.
I don't want it to be about me not wanting SD7 to have a 'special bond with her brother' but I'd rather watch over SD7 with BS with my own eyes, than DH's which typically are on the computer or TV.. KWIM?
If you had this convo with your DH/DW ... what did you say, points you had brought up? Etc... TIA
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I think that this may be a
I think that this may be a bit much to ask seeing the he has his daughter so little. I do have/ask that my DH take our oldest BS (3 1/2 yrs) to the races just the two of them. If SD is with us I keep her with me or suggest a overnight with Gramma (MIL). But we have her EOW so I am not asking for a 50% decrease in his time with her..... just one Sat for about 3 hrs.
I understand you not wanting her influence on your BS or not trusting her actions when you are away. I feel the same way about SD11 but I am sure that your DH won't let anything happen to your 1 yr old.
Points I brought up to DH about Sat night races (2x a month) with BS.....it is one on one time. He has that time with SD, and since we have (soon to be) 3 boys full time at home I think he/oldest BS need that time together to bond.
They both really enjoy it.
Thanks for the feedback - I
Thanks for the feedback - I spoke with DH last night and explained what I thought (sugar coated but of course) and how even though at BM's she may be great around her sister (from BM) all I hear about from SD7 is how she wants to 'beat her like a pinata' 'hope the beast isnt awake when i get home' - hearing about her having to see a child psychologist to get through 'sharing mommy's attention' and such - I do feel it would be better that when she is here for her EOW over nights it should be the 4 of us instead of the 3 so they can have their one on one time (DH and SD7) ..