A little help???
Any suggestions on how to get SD13 to sleep in her own room? She has been in the baby nursery since she arrived at our house a month ago. SD13 didn't want to live with BM anymore. BF and I let her sleep in the nursery since it was so warm outside and her room in upstairs. Well now that I'm days away from having a baby, I wanted the nursery in order and we moved SD13 upstairs. For the past four hours we have heard howling and screaming and crying. We have tried to make it more comfortable for her, letting the dog sleep with her, leaving the light on etc. She is still crying and trying to tiptoe her way downstairs. I've caught her three times already. Any suggestions before I scream?
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Lock the door to the room
Go to Home Depot. Spend $12 on a locking door handle. Lock the overgrown baby out of the nursery, since the new arrival hasn't come yet. Maybe that will give her enough time to adjust. If not... well...
Tell her if the sleeping arrangements aren't acceptable, she's welcome to return to BM.
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw
The night
Well after SD13's fifth trip out of bed, I lost my temper. I've have really tried to be understanding and patient, but I could only handle so much. I know SD13 has slept with BM for the past five years, in the same bed, and I know it takes time to re-adjust SD13 to a NORMAL and HEALTHY lifestyle, but I couldn't take it anymore. She didn't end up staying in bed until way after 1:00 am.
After SD13 came downstairs to try to sleep on the couch AGAIN, I lost my temper last night and yelled at her. She started crying and went up stairs, at least she stayed in bed that time. Of course getting her out of bed for school this morning was another battle. At least she slept in her bed, in her room. It only took over five hours to get her to do it. I hope tonights battle is easier, I'm afraid I don't have the patience to deal with it again.
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Hello. You are a few days away from having your baby, the most wonderful time of your life. Do not let it make you upset.
She is nervous now. She is upset with her mom for something. she does not know if she has a place somewhere or not, will she have a place when the baby comes?, etc. I am not trying to protect her though. She should sleep in her room. period. there is no question about that. She is 13 not 3!
Is it for sure she will live with you? or will she change her mind and move back? (Wouldn't that be better for her ?) Is it "officially " decided she stays with you? It sounds to me, she might change her mind again. Why is she uspet with her mom?
You need a stable situation for you and your child too. If you all decide that she stays with you and will live with you from now on, she has to start to respect the house rules.
she needs to know she is loved, her dad can help the most with that... Your husband could try to speak to her. I think if she gets more attention during the day, the night sleeping arrangements will solve themselves alone. :o)
This is something that I would refuse to deal with
Make DH deal with this. This is the issue to push back on! Us SM's and BM's for that matter do enough. We spend all day at work, weather it be at home or out of the house. We cook, clean, feed, do laundry etc. when we get home. Bedtime is time for you and DH to cuddle, winde down, and let the day go. Forget this non-sense. She's 13 for Petes sake! Daddy needs to make her grow up and get over this with a quickness.
I have no advise, I'm just mad for you!