Want a child of my own! Still dealing with BM drama. What to do?!
New Stepmom, no children of my own, husband has 2 children with two different mothers, his eldest- mother is not in picture (that was a young fling that didn't last long), youngest (13)- mother has major issues (he didn't know this when he married her!), and most the time I resort to calling her psycho!! Had to keep our marriage secret for a while, harassment, police reports, controlling behavior, you name it, we've put up with it!! Even though he and ex have been divorced for 10 years now. Wanting at least one child of my own, but not sure when that will happen, because we are having to concentrate so much on his 13 year old. We are trying to get her back "in the fold", and out from underneath her mother's evil spell. My husband is a great person and very peaceful. He just wants what is best for us all, but I'm afraid, waiting on his ex to settle down and get daughter back to sanity, we might wait too long to have a child together. See, I was diagnosed with High Risk HPV, which my unfaithful ex gave to me. I have abnormal cells and they tell me that 80% of all uterine cancer is from this disease. I'm only 28, but I feel as though, the longer I wait, the less chance I have of conceiving. I am a very mothering person and love children! I'm not sure what I will do, going through life, without a child of my own.... confused and not sure what to do!
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Have a baby
if you want don't let a crazy ex ruin that for you. You will regret it for the rest of your life. I deal with a crazy BM and a SD9 that is a liar (has constant issues) and I am currently pregnant with out 2nd child.
Our BS didn't change anything for us, not better not worse. And I doubt our 2nd child will change anything either. Do what you want.
i agree...have a baby
in a non-blended family situation, u most likely wouldnt wait for the kids approval before having another child, so why would u here? i understand that shes going thru alot, but they are 2 diff situations and that should not stop u from having a baby. im 28 too and we are trying and its not as easy as one might think, so i definitely wouldnt wait, especially if u suspect fertility issues. dont deny urself. talk to hubby and get on the baby making train!
"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin
Thanks!
Thanks alot for your advise. I wish you lots of luck on conceiving!
hanginginthere
Girl live your life
DO NOT WAIT ON AN EX WIFE TO HAVE A LIFE.....You will wait forever and then your life has past you by...Live your life, dont waist your life on her......