NSMR...but am I the @sshole here..its my mother
Ok...my parents live about an hour away from me out in the middle of BFE...I'm mean they live out in an area where they are surrounded by corn fields. They moved to this midwest state from the great city of Wind on the lake. When they moved there they wanted land...glorious land. I tried to tell them..yea living out in the boonies is fun for about 5 minutes...until you have to have your gas trucked in and drive 30+ minutes to get ANYTHING. I had BTDT while living in another corn filled midwestern state. Not again...but of course they didn't listen and now live 30+ minutes from civilization.
My parents do not get along...my Dad is difficult and my mom is a slob. Oh joy...my mom text messages me a lot about how much Dad is d*ck..blah, blah, blah.... Ok I get it but he is my Dad wth do you want me to say...sheesh. I try to be supportive but really what am I to say. Yesterday she wanted me to stop working and drive one hour each way to move a chair for her because my Dad was bitching about where it was. Yea...I declined that one on the basis that I need to keep my job and chair moving is most definately not an emergency.
My sister gray rocks my parents like she is f*cking Mount Everest. She cannot spend more than about an hour with them tops.
Today my mother was texting my sister on her day off, who is a veternarian and has been working 80 hour weeks, because my mothers cat is peeing in a corner. My sister told her to put a litter box there and figure out which of the two is peeing. Nope..not good enough for my mother....her next text to my sister was...well I will just put both cats asleep and that will be it. My sister then tells her to take the cats to the vet and figure out what is wrong. Again..wrong answer on my sisters part. My responded back that she will just kill the plant that she thinks the cats are peeing in and was wondering how many sleeping pills she would need to take to kill herself. At this point my sister is PISSED that my mother is being drama queen on her day off and sends me a message to deal with our mom.
Meanwhile, my mom sends me the same shit in text message and I tell her the same thing my sister did. Put a litter box there as maybe the old cat can't make it down to the basement anymore. Nope...she won't because my Dad will be mad. Ok...then take the cats to the vet. Oh boy so not the right answer. Next message was the cat, whichever one it is, is peeing in the corner with the big ass plant my parents have had for the last 30 years. Can I come get the plant today?
I answered no I am not coming to get the plant today...move the plant and put a litter box there and figure out what cat is peeing in the corner. Nope...she is going to move the plant out the trash. At this point...I was PISSED...and told her to just move the damn plant and be done. I got a nevermind...and told her ok then.
Now mind you last weekend, I spent Saturday with her getting hair done and picking up the chair she wanted me to move on Friday. Then on Sunday, I drove to my parents house dropped off the chair and stayed there for about 3 hours and then drove home. Its not like I don't see her and I generally text message her or call her everyday.
The last straw was her posting on facebook that she found out who she could count one and who she couldn't. Neither my sister or I responded to that one. Talk about gaslighting.
So..am I the asshole for not running out there today to solve the great plant/cat peeing problem. I don't think I am but then again my bullshit meter runs a little off since I was married to my ex, the village idiot.
My Dh is now PISSED that mom has ruined yet another Saturday with her bullshit. (She tends to do this more when DH and I here with no kids..cause you know I couldn't possibly want to spend time with my DH).