Gift from “skid”
So DH has done is shopping and his wrapping. All is placed under the tree.
Last year I told him to stop buying a gift and wrapping it to me love skid. Skid24 is a grown up he can purchase his own gifts if he chooses to. I asked him last year not to because I don’t like being in the position of thanking skid for a gift that he had nothing to do with. I don’t want to make a scene at gift opening or made to feel awkward.
I looked under the tree and I saw a gift marked to Grace, Love skid in DH’s handwriting, I know that it’s from DH.
I think I will place it on DH’s desk tonight. What does he have the need to make him feel better about his ungrateful kid at my expense?
it really annoys me.
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I'm sorry, this is just
I'm sorry, this is just embarrassing, all the way around. Tell your husband to stop.
It is annoying, and weird. It
It is annoying, and weird. It'd be one thing if skid asked him to do it, but he just does it on his own? Must be embarrassing for the skid too, though obviously not enough that he goes out to get his own gift for you, lol.
Just tell DH the new deal is - you get nothing for skid, skid gets nothing for you. Why would he get something for you, anyway? I wouldn't expect that from my SS.
My DH would also do this when
My DH would also do this when spawn lived with us, no gifts from my birth kids but he always made sure there was one from her and he would make a big production out of telling me she picked it.
i would open it while DH looked on longingly hoping that this gift would now signify that I was indeed Spawns new mommy. I would always be polite and tell Spawn thank you and she would avert her eyes and make the comment “my dad picked it”.
Finally one year he handed me the obligatory spawn gift with that dopey hopeful look and I commmented “oh is this another gift you picked up, but somehow my own kids named couldn’t make it on the tag but only Spawns could fit?” DH was pissed and embarrassed and never got me a gift from spawn again, instead I would get a gift from all three with the proclamation spawn picked it out and they all agreed on it.
What is with
What is withh these guys? They picked the wrong woman to have a kid with. They need to deal with that fact and move on with life. No one is going to be their new mommy and no one is going to do more for them than the absolute obligation until they are taught how to be nice people. They may love their kid just because they draw breath but it takes more than that for literally everyone else on the planet.
I know exactly the look you
I know exactly the look you are talking about. It's weird.
Really?? SS is 24 and your DH
Really?? SS is 24 and your DH does this? Definitely put it on his desk.
Thanks Tog Redux and
Thanks Tog Redux and Pixielady for your understanding. Maybe DH should not buy me a skid gift in the first place @wanted2 and then this would not be an issue. I guess you haven’t turned your cheek enough in your relationship yet. When you get to that point just remember to make your DH happy and suck it up.
What is DH's goal, anyway? To
What is DH's goal, anyway? To repair the relationship with skid and you? If so, why doesn't he get the skid to buy his own actual present for you, or at least have skid write your name on the name tag! It's like a little delusion DH has going on, that you don't realize he bought the gift.
Well DH said he did that just
Well DH said he did that just to make it easier because he is not sure if skid24 has had time to go Christmas shopping and if skid had any money for Christmas since he has a $700 car repair bill. Couldn’t give me a more valid or honest excuse. Like he is embarrassed that is skid is unthoughtful.
For one skid does nothing but watch Netflix in his room all night, two skid knows nothing about the $700 bill for his car repair and probably thinks daddy is covering that (DH isn’t giving him the invoice until after Christmas).
Dh did try to say skid gave him money for last years gift which is bullshit. Anytime skid gives money and slightly adults DH makes sure I know and also it would always would be an Etransfer into our account.
He doesn’t really get it. I told him I will thank him for the gift but not skid.
So the gift has been retagged to Grace, love DH.
Go open that present right
Go open that present right now without an audience. Then go "thank" your DH for his gift.
The only "gift" that I ever got from SS in the decade I've known him was a gift certificate at a nail salon for my birthday. I know that my DH bought it. I don't get my nails done very often and the place I go is about 30 miles from where SS lives. No way he even knew where I went.
This was a few years ago (before the home invasion) when DH was trying to foster a relationship between us. On Christmas DH would eat with my family (noon) and then that night he's go over to SS and GF's home. I of course was never included. And he'd come home with presents from them for him - but never even a Merry Christmas for me.
Now don't get me wrong. I was happy not to be included and drug over to their home. All they ever cared about from me was trying to get their hands on what I owned. Assholes.
HaHa
Write a thank you note....
to DH. " thank you for the lovely proxy gift"