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GlitterGal79's picture

I would like to think of myself as a nice person who cares about others, which is why I felt it was important to talk to the older skid about college. No one else is... I had her take an aptitude test to figure out what she might want to do with her life and she scored horribly on everthing! How do you get a zero on everything?? Is that even possible to have no interests or personality traits. It kinda scares me... Weird.

Anyway, I was telling her about the virtues of college and how great it is to expand your horizons and dreams. She has no desire to attend, her aspiritation is to be a factory worker! Are you kidding me? Not that its a bad job, but thats' your aspiry? You dont want anything else for yourself besides that? This "aspiration" made me realize something that I was missing. These arent my kids and never will be. There is no way on Earth that kids of mine would aim so low.

In the course of our conversation, I gave up trying to get her to show some interest in higher learning. Why bother? She's not my daughter.

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Done WIth It's picture

Ok...now that that's established and understood, you can teach her to cut coupons. Most people want to get ahead and achieve in life, some don't.

At least you tried.

GlitterGal79's picture

Goodness, I read your reply and laughed my butt off! The pragmatacism of it was excellent.

Yep, at least I tried. Never again.

giveitago's picture

I love my skids, they suck at a lot of stuff during their teenage years but they'll grow and learn, right? Of course I want them to be productive members of society and they are in college as I type. SD asked what we wanted her to be, in a letter, and I wrote back asking her if she remembered telling me what she wanted to do, to become, and I told her she can do it if she puts her mind to it...in fact she can be anything she desires to be since she is so, and I mean sooooooooooooooo smart! Problem with people with so much intelligence is that it takes common sense a little time to catch up! Currently SD is in a juvenile facility because of her smart mouth and NOT showing respect for adults in authority, does not matter that they contradict themselves or act like morons...they are in authority! She'll learn the hard way and then she'll become whatever she wants to be.

roseslady2's picture

You can't make anybody want to do something, just show them how important it is to you. Good for you for taking an interest. And good for her for at least wanting to work. My SS10 says he wants to live with BM until he's 45. Then, he'll get married and live next door. Ok, good. As long as he's not beating my door down to tell me how much it sucks and that he's broke...

joanie's picture

YOU WONT END UP PAYING FOR COLLEGE!

hopefully she gets a good factory job, union benefits, etc.

not everyone has the genes or brains to use their mind for a living. it's not too bad, at least she's willing to work.