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Bio Parents and mental abuse

Geema's picture

So many articles on divorce state ways parents should co-parent after a divorce. But what if both parents are still hostile towards each other 6 years later? DH has a hard time being civil to BM of SS7 still. Where do you go and how do you get a bio parent, or both and skid into counseling??? ARGH!!!

Yes this opens the door for a whole mess of extra problems.

Plus both parents do not discipline, etc.

I looked it up and here is what the DHMH/CPS states about one form of abuse:

"Identifiable and substantial impairment of a child's mental or psychological ability to function."

So basically YES IT IS A CRIME to screw up your child emotionally - it is considered ABUSE.

Also noted some articles that said that a lack of discipline also impairs a child's self esteem and ability to learn self control.

Permissive parents are selfish. They care more about how they feel vs. teaching their children. Now what to do about it???

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Auteur's picture

When you find the answer let me know. The courts wink at (mostly) BMs who commit PAS. All they care about is if NCP biodad has paid his CS.

Geema's picture

I'm working on it....

In my situation there is 50/50 custody with BM and DH and they are both equally ridiculous.

anabihibik's picture

FSS8 just started counseling because he made some disturbing comments about hurting himself. I thought he needed it before, and normally, I stay out of stuff because I don't want to be his mom, but I used it to push the counseling thing. FDH has primary custody, so we have him all the time. Off they go. BM rescinded permission for me to be there at his second appointment. I went because FSS asked me to. The therapist told me not to let FDH put me in the middle, and that mom and dad need to learn to communicate. They're being better about it, but it is because of the counseling.