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Fading's picture

I know the title sounds selfish but I kind of want to be. I am getting a puppy on Saturday (a male fawn pug) and he's already been raised with the name I wanted for him (Brooks). My issue is, ever since SD found out I was getting a puppy she keeps saying it is HER PUPPY. This puppy in no way is to be SD's. I, Fading, am going to be its sole caregiver and master. I am afraid that once Brooks gets here she is going to pull, hit, and chase him around and he is still young. She does this to my sisters dog on holidays and usually gets nipped at even though we have told her to stop. This would be my first puppy, and I am paying for it. Am I being tooooo selfish wanting this to be MY PUPPY? And what can I do to ensure SD won't torture my poor little Brooks into becoming a on-guard pup?

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Amazed's picture

OMG Fading I went through the same thing when I got my mini-dachshund,Doodle.

I was really irritated with SD because Doodle was SO tiny and she would carry him around and drop him by accident. He's an adult now and I had to get rid of him because he became riddled with anxiety issues and aggression which caused him to have urination problems and barking issues. I can't help but blame SD and her carelessness and smothering.
I had a dachshund a few years before choochoo was born and that dog was wonderful...

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sweetthing's picture

I wondered what you ended up having to do with your weiner baby. It's funny because I have two mini's & neither have any of those issues and I have 3 crazy rambontious boys.

LValleyGirl28's picture

Been there, girl! Got MY lab pup last summer and SD7 tried to pull that. The dog really wanted nothing to do with her after awhile.

SD7 really stopped pestering her when the pup nipped her pretty hard on the arm. SD was harrassing her and SD totally deserved it.

Let Mother Nature lead the way...

"Marriage is a partnership of two people... One who is always right and a husband." - Anonymous

Mich811's picture

I know this REALLY doesn't relate...but that is how my SS7 acts with my iPhone! It drives me nuts, because he drops it, leaves it in random places and I need to call it with DH's phone to find it. He calls it "his" iPhone. Argh.

Back to the original post -- no, I think it is normal to want something of your own.

NachoMama's picture

I can totally relate to this! MY FURBABIES are MY FURBABIES!!! I know it does sound selfish and childish probably but I am the one that feeds them, walks them, bathes them, takes them to the vet so who's are they??? MINE!!! When DH and I first got together I had a pit named Dozer! (RIP buddy Sad ) He was THE BEST dog in the world and for 4 years it had been just me and him! (I had an ex but he wasn't interested in calling Dozer his....which was fine by me) But when I met the skids they immediately upped the number of dogs they owned by 1. They were like now we have X amt of dogs now. I was like really? When did you get another dog? Well Dozer is ours now too!!! Ummmmm.....do what? I don't think so. I said tell BM he's a pit....I am sure given the bad rap they all have....he won't be yours much longer! MUAHAHAHAHAH!!!! }:)

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BettyRay's picture

I just got a puppy too!

It's supposed to be our family dog but she loves me the best Wink When we got her I spent a week at home with her. I did all the feeding and potty training. That's what will bond Brooks with you, if your his primary care-giver.

SS8 is kinda like your SD in that he likes to chase her around. He also gets right up in her face and growls at her. She runs from SS8 and will hide under a chair or behind me or DH.

I always try to keep her with me and never leave her alone with SS8. I use a training method called umbilical cording. By using this method the puppy will learn to always follow you when you leave a room. I've used this method with a rescue dog that I have as well as my puppy-girl, it works great. They both follow me everywhere and sort of ignore my SSons.

I do allow SSons to play with the dogs but only if DH or are around to supervise.

Hope this helps.

~BettyRay
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Pantera's picture

You are not being selfish. I got my labradoodle last May and I didn't even have to tell anyone he was mine (although I was ready to, lol). I am the dog's favorite and it is obvious. Ya know why...the dog knows who feeds him, takes him for walks and to the dog park, takes him to the vets, plays with him, cuddles with him, lets him out to do his business, ect. The dog IS my kid.

I watch my SS with my dog all of the time. I have since we got him, but I have good reason to. I would watch your SD around the dog too. Also, let her know exactly what she needs to do and how she needs to act around the dog.

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jojo68's picture

OMG..I could never have a puppy...every animal we have is claimed by Princess and my black pug that I had before I started seeing my BF I gave away to a good friend because I thought he was too hyper and might hurt her cat. I loved him so....now we have a dog that terrorizes the cat, craps in the floor, barks incessantly, and has a skin problem that is very expensive to control...just so Princess could have a dog.She has a rabbit, guinnea pig, and a cat as well. I should have kept my dog. Before we got the dog we have now...I brought home a puppy as a suprise (after hers was killed by a car) for Princess...she didn't really want it because she didn't pick it out. She yelled at and kicked this puppy when he jumped on her. She was very rough with him and he made her cry when he tried to play back that way...what an idiot I am. I WILL NEVER GET INVOLVED IN GETTING A PET AGAIN, as I was blamed everytime the puppy jumped on her or made her mad. F that...I really want a dog of my own but I know it won't work the way things are.

Marie09's picture

Nope not at all.

I had MY dog before I met DH which made it a tad easier to claim him as mine. Well he is ours! But the boys will call him all the names I call him. For some reason, I call him pumpkin and I will catch them talking a baby voice saying that to him. I steam inside but the dog ALWAYS comes to me first and knows I'm his mommy and caregiver. He is most excited to see me too. As long as you are the one to feed him and train him, he will more than likely favor you.

I have German Shep and they are one owner type pets. They love the whole family, but if I tell him to do something, he does it the first time as opposed to my DH or the kids telling him.

I dont think its selfish. If anything you're skid should consider it the FAMILY pet!!