Financially Stable, Mentally Unstable
MY last blog went over so well...smh. I don't really care at this point. DH found a job. And so we are actually more well off now than before with his last job. But alas, not every aspect of this so-called life could be even remotely decent.
I'm done with SD7. I've had it. I don't want her in my house or near me or my fur or feather babies anymore. I'm done playing nicey nice and done playing the mean ole stepmom. We all have been trying with her and none of our attempts have worked. The therapist we had her seeing now refuses to see her and we've found a new one. (SD7 threw a decorative piece in the therapists office AT the therapist and hurt her pretty bad).
In the last MONTH, SD7 has:
-pushed her brother down the stairs, resulting in a concussion.
-bit me, drawing a lot of blood and leaving a likely scar.
-broke her Gma's dog's leg.
-slammed the fridge door on BM (this was after BM's back surgery in April), causing BM's discs to swell and she had to go in for a second surgery. (BM was trying to get SD7 juice and SD7 wanted soda).
-kicked DH in the 'goods' TWICE when he told her no sweets after 5PM.
-peed on BM's clothes.
-pulled a large fistful of hair out of my head, scratched, kicked and bit me (again drawing blood). She was ticked because I told her she wasn't allowed to go play with her friends because we were eating supper soon.
-threatened to kill my new puppy because 'she hates me and likes when i cry' (DH got me a chihuahua puppy as a surprise when he got his job).
-Caught her choking my pug
-Tried to let my tame parakeets outside (which would result in their death)
-Pushed her grandmother down in the driveway (she is a very dainty old woman and very sickly) and her grandmother ended up with two badly swollen knees and a broken wrist.
These are just a FEW of the things she's done. Her new therapist believes SD7 is showing sociopathic tendencies and has said SD7 doesn't show much if any remorse when she tells him about the 'bad stuff' she's done. She laughed the entire time I was trying to clean the bite wounds! I am afraid for DH, myself, my beloved fur and feather babies, her Gma, BM, SF, and BM's son.
I don't know how to tell DH that I don't want her in my house any more. BM is so scared that her son sleeps with them now. BM and I have discussed sending SD7 to an institution where she can't hurt anyone, but that seems horrible, although it might be the only way some of us are going to remain healthy in SD's presence.
It has slowly come to this. I don't want to ban SD from my house, because DH still loves his daughter and I respect and understand that. I cannot even LIKE this child right now. I am actually afraid of her. I am afraid of a 7 year old. I am more afraid for my animals than myself. They cannot help the situation I sadly have brought them into but I will protect them with every ounce of my being.
Today, DH is getting SD before I get off work. I have reiterated again and again not to leave her alone with the animals. I know it hurts him for me to say this, but if he can't help me protect them while still allowing his daughter to visit, then there is either A) she doesn't visit anymore or I leave with the animals.
I just don't know what to do. SD scares me, I can't say I hate her but I strongly dislike her at this point in time. I don't want to lose my husband, but I don't want my fur & feather babies to suffer her wrath.