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Exhausted SM's picture

Ok first a quick update for those who don't know my drama. I am a SM of 3 SKIDS. Boy 8, Boy 14, and Girl 11 (going on 21). We have custody of boy 14 and girl hates us especially me and boy 8 desperately wants to live with us as mom uses him as a pawn in her evil game to torture us by any means necessary. Well, this weekend was Easter of course and it was our turn to have the kids. SD has not come to our house since Christmas because of her hateful attitude and false accusations about me she is not allowed to. This is killing mom because she likes to party on our weekends. Anyways boy 8 came over Thursday night (no school Friday) with a smile from ear to ear to be spending such a long weekend with us. I took off Friday and had a lovely day with the boys, shopping, eating lunch out and just enjoying eachothers company. The whole weekend boy 8 was telling me how he wished the weekend would never end. It crushes my heart to hear him so unhappy with his situation. The weekend went great and come Sunday around 5pm we started getting his things together to take him back when I got a hunch to check his online school schedule. I was prompted to do so because BM was very persistent that we don't ask it he could stay an extra day because he did have school. Needless to say he was off of school and I brought it to my hubby's attention. Right away me hubby was against keeping him because "SHE" said no. God forbid we don't bow down and do what she says or she may take us to court for the billionth time or she may have to repay us for pissing her off. We argued for a while and I finally got out the divorce decree and showed him where it stated that we get to keep him in the event of a school holiday that lands on our weekend. My hubby tried to call her and ask politely if he could stay and she just said "I don't want to hear it" and hung up on him. Then she ignored his phonecalls after. (This is common for her to do when she knows we are right. She even hangs up on the 14 yr olds face when he says things she doesn't want to hear.). Finally he just sent her a text message that we were keeping him and if she wished to discuss it she could call him. Suprisingly we received no phonecall or response text. At first SS was so afraid because he said his mom told him that if he told us he had no school then he was going to be in a lot of trouble. We assured him that we would tell her we found out on our own. He was slightly comforted but happy that he would not have to go home for one more day. Now you tell me how a mother can put that kind of pressure and stress on an 8 yr old little boy and why the hell is she constantly trying to keep him from us. And this no response from a very outspoken witch is worrying me. But we cannot let her dictate our lives because of fear that she may retaliate. HELP!!!! NEED YOUR COMMENTS!!

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happy's picture

YOU did nothing wrong.. YOu have legal documents to prove you get him.. And he was happy..
BM needs to get off her high horse and think about the interest of her children. Well I am sure that her partying is in a little bit of sadness, beings that SD will not come to your house.. How funny is that?
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..

Little Jo's picture

I wish I had it that easy. You handled it beautifully. Oh my God, there must be someplace we can send these rotton BM's.

Our solution to the "outspoken witch" syndrome was to live and die by the Court Order. We don't even communicate in situations like these. If we are supposed to keep the kids longer, we do it and we don't leave a message. She's just as capable of reading the court order as we are. If she's too irresponsible to read and follow it, then she's the one who has driven to our meeting point and wasted her time. That means that we have to be on top of the order ourselves, but it has saved a lot of headaches. Communication with our own personal psycho is an impossibility, so we just don't do it anymore. E-mail works well, too. It seems to take the emotion out of the conversation if one absolutely, positively has to be had.