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Elle36's picture

For the past two years BM has not really reimbursed DH or myself for any sporting equipment bought for SS’s activities. Two years ago BM insisted that she go out and buy SS a baseball glove and that was the glove to use “at her house”. So whatever week it was SS son used glove from hat house at the gems. BM did not buy him any cleats so he had cleats from our house. It got to the point that we would bring the shoes and he would change into them before the game. Never once did BM offer to p0ay half.

Wrestling season came around. DH bought SS son 2 singlets ($39.00 a piece), headgear and shoes. Again no offering from BM. BUT we had to pack up all this each week so he would have his stuff when he went to practices on her weeks. Baseball last year. Again using different gloves and we bought cleats. No money from BM.

Boy scouts started. BH went out bought everything he needed ($50.00). Nothing from BM. Not much really bothers us about this. I am sure she knows this stuff wasn’t free. Especially when she gives us a detailed list of what we owe her each month. Maybe it was our faults as to not give her an itemized list. Here is my dilemma…. Baseball is starting up. I went and got SS new baseball cleats. All of a sudden she mentioned something to DH about shoes and she wants to pay half. He never really told her how much, just that I already got a pair. Sunday when we picked him up there was a check for $10 half of shoes. We did ask her for it. I don’t want it because honestly when the sport season is over there is no fight as to WHOSE HOUSE THE EWUIPEMTN STAYS AT. We bought it, it stays with us. Also I bought a pair of nikes and 10$ wouldn’t cover half. Do I just give the money back and say thank you but not needed. The evil devil in me wants to point out…”where have you been the last 2 years??? You7 owe about $120 from baseball, wrestling, and scouts.”

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Mocha2001's picture

What does your Order of Child Support say? In Washington State there is an "extraordinary expenses" that include these types of things. It is based on each parties' share of the combined household income. Do you have something like that that shows what her share of all these costs shoudl be, and vice versa?

We are in the same boat, but for now aren't going to worry about it. We know if she was expected to pay her share, SS wouldn't get to participate. So, we do it for him - just like I'm sure you do.

~ Katrina

Stephanie's picture

We just don't bother with that stuff anymore. It became too annoying to continue to even track it or try to deal with it. BM in our situation is ALL about the money and nothing else. We just chalk it up to normal stuff the kids will do, pay the fees, and keep it all at our house. The kids know to bring it back when they come back from her house. In our situation, she would never even offer the $10. But I like the idea above from guinnessgirl13 about just sweetly asking for the difference. It would be tough for her to back out on it after she already offered the $10.

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