Well, since I came into the marriage with 2 kids myself, I guess that road goes both ways. My DH is my best friend, an excellent lover, an outstanding father, a hard worker, and much more. He made his mistakes with the BMs. It doesn't sound like it was much fun on his end. Either way, I'm having my fun now, with him and our new family.

My mom said the same thing when she was expressing her dislike about my pick of a boyfriend when we started dating.

It was tough in the beginning as he didnt really want my opinions on how he was raising his daughter, but more of an extra pair of eyes and someone to get up when she cried at night.

Things have changed now and he gets my opinions and if I want things to be different they will be. As with many situations, you teach them how to treat you, and letting a man think you are a babysitter when his children are around will continue to use you as a babysitter.

I rarely take SD anywhere by myself or watch her when shes here. Shes here to see my FDH and thats it, not to sit in the house and be 'watched' by me! Ive told him that many times and he needs to plans his activities when shes not here.

Says You!! I would think getting divorced is the opposite of fun, and that is what he had w/BM!!

Fortunately for me, we are non-custodial parents, as most dads are - so there is no childcare, though we do not get to see our SD, who is grown now anyway, very often, only a few times a year = plenty for me.

This is how I feel when he tells me all these fun stories of his life pre-kids. And now at least I'm always stuck home with all HIS kids. And for those with the whole "you knew what you were getting into". We got the kids AFTER I came into the picture. We used to do some fun stuff during dating, now I'm just the maid, atm, babysitter, cook.