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Why is that the SM/SD always have to settle?

dreamingofhappiness's picture

I am so tired of living my life around some one else's agenda. Why do I have to settle for the ignorance of some one else. Why is it I have to be the one that has to shut my mouth and allow the idiots to run my name through the dirt. Why is it that this ex bitch feels she has the right to use and abuse my hubby, allow her family to fill the SK's heads full of lies, and hate on me when I have done nothing but fall in love with BD, and try to control what goes on in MY HOUSE? The when told out right, "You lost that right (to control) Years ago... You have your own hubby, control him" I am the bad guy. Why do I always have to be the bad guy for standing up for me and my marriage?

I hate this BM with a passion. I can not even stand the sight of BM or her FUed family. I am so tired of listening to the lies being told about me. I am so tired of this ignorant, immature, malfunctioning idiot even speaking my name. YOU DO NOT KNOW ME! YOU HAVE NO RIGHT EVEN MENTIONING MY NAME TO ANYONE. INCLUDING MY MIL...

YOU HAVE NO CLAIM TO MY NEICES AND NEPHEWS. YOU ARE JUST MY SKs BM. YOU ARE NOT LONG THEIR AUNT. YOU HAVE ABSOLUTE NO RELATIONS TO THEM. YOU CHOSE THIS ROUTE, NOT ME. LIVE WITH YOUR FLIPPIN CHOICES AND LEAVE ME AND MY FAMILY ALONE!!!!!!!!!!1

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CalgonTakeMeAway's picture

(Applause) Well said!! {{{Hugs}}}

I just told my DH yesterday that I hate knowing everything that happens here is reported back to BM. I'm tired of her "living" in my home. I hate walking on eggshells and being careful what I say. SS13 is here this weekend...I'm going shopping today ALL BY MYSELF!!! YAY!!

allinall's picture

Well said. Yeah I used to walk on eggshells in my house, but then I thought...this is MY house...I should at least be able to say what I want in it. (Since I clearly don't get everything I want in it.) So if my SS "overhears" me call his mother trifling...oh well...it's my house and I pay the bills so I say whatever comes to mind. (he shouldn't be listening in on adult conversations anyway) If my DH doesn't like, he can take his son BACK to his TRIFLING mother's house.

Rags's picture

We don't have to settle nor should we. Our marriage, our home, our rules and BM/BioDad and the Skids damned well better realize it and comply or suffer the consequences.