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Hi I am new to this page just thought I would share my story.
So I have been with my husband 4 years married for 1, he has a 5 year old son from a previous relationship (not married) and we have 2 children a 2 year old son with special needs and a 5 month old daughter :). When I first met his son we got along really well although he was only 1 and our relationship was fine right up until about 12 months ago. In October 2013 my husband and I eloped and my husbands mother didn't like that and hasn't spoke to us since that side of the family have missed my sons first Christmas and birthday and the birth of my daughter and her first Christmas. BUT they still go behind my husbands back and get his son without him "knowing" and his ex doesn't say a word about it either. This brings me to my point of being so frustrated with my step son he all of a sudden won't talk to me won't stand near me, won't listen to me and continually gets on my nerves so I ignore him and let my husband deal with it so over the last 12 months it has just got to the point where I grit my teeth when we have to get him and the whole time he is hear I feel like ripping my hair out.

I have now come to the realization I don't like him anymore, he is a brat he tells me I HAVE to buy him certain toys and food etc. my husbands mother is still getting him behind my husbands back but on his mothers weekend so I have the question what happens with child support if he isn't in her care every weekend?

I think that maybe my rant over (for now).
Any thoughts, questions or advice is welcome and appreciated Smile

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Dottie27's picture

My DH kind of brushes it off and says "there isn't much I can do" that is about the family situation. As for the behavior he says he has tried talking to my SS but he is an ignorant little **** and just says "I don't know".
My hubby's mother is a stubborn, selfish, argumentative woman they have threatened us with court because my hubby asked them to go through him to see his son.

Sorry if this posted twice still figuring it all out.

Dottie27's picture

Thanks will try it, we have tried similar discipline but I just let hubby deal with him now.

"His Mother is a nightmare! Wow." You got that right!

Dottie27's picture

My DH kind of brushes it off and says "there isn't much I can do" that is about the family situation. As for the behavior he says he has tried talking to my SS but he is an ignorant little **** and just says "I don't know".
My hubby's mother is a stubborn, selfish, argumentative woman they have threatened us with court because my hubby asked them to go through him to see his son.

ChiefGrownup's picture

With a kid that little I would have no problem enforcing my own personal authority. It's best if dad does it, but he's already said he "can't." Like so many other spouses here on this board, your dh finds himself incapable of dmeanding, expecting, and receiving proper behavior from a tiny child. So messed up. So you'll have to do it yourself. If your partnership with dh is good, he may be able to learn from you and be pleased with the results you get. That would be a great outcome.

Dottie27's picture

Thanks everyone I will see how we go this weekend as we have SS and it's my sons 2nd birthday. We will see how much of a brat SS will be.