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Amazing how bad a kid can make you feel.

dezm00's picture

Submitted by dezm00 on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 5:07pm

I feel totally alone in my own house. I always feel like it's me against my husband and stepson. It's not because my DH chooses though. SS is constantly trying to make me look bad to DH. Thank goodness DH knows better but I am really tired of it. Usually my DH and I split the care of the kid but lately all I hear is how shitty I am and I can't stand to be around SS. Then my DH has to take care of it because I don't want to. Kid wins and I feel like a pile of poop.

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alwaysanxious's picture

Submitted by alwaysanxious on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 5:22pm

I'm sorry. Yes that really is crappy. I think its just one of those nights. Same at my house tonight but its not me.

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Submitted by Lovepets on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 5:31pm

I am sorry sometimes it just sucks!!! Take a nice, long bath, read a book or go out with a friend for a little while tonight. I hope it gets better! I may be posting this same message this weekend with SD.

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 5:59pm

For just right now...for just a short time. Look in the mirror and say this to yourself.:

This is not my son. This isn't even a relative. This is my husband's child. This is a huge problem for my husband. This kids a Stupid $#!%. But, you can only say "Silly Boy".

Now, when when that kids tries to make you look bad...YOU LAUGH!! And then say, "You're so silly"...then walk off. WHen he does it again, smile at the boy and say, "You're such a silly boy"...then walk off. Keep doing that.

Only you and us in here know what you mean when you say "Silly Boy". He and dad doesn't know it means "Stupid $#!%. We're all in on it and the kid is going to know something's up, but he's not people wise enough to figure it out.

You keep saying that...he's going to know you mean something else and will, hopefully, stop with the crud aimed at you. Because you're just going to so sweetly throw it back at him.....in such a nice nice way.

So let us know when you got to tell the kid that he's a SS.

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Submitted by Done WIth It on Wed, 02/23/2011 - 7:50pm

dezM00...if I hadn't walked in your shoes so many thousands of times, I might be a little gentler with your situation.

But when another is purposely being hateful, purposely be so disruptive and they get away because after all, "You're the adult & it's the child". That's only good for so long until you realize the kid's taking advantage of the situation, doesn't learn from it, and enjoying his bullying.

I finally told my husband's 16 year old daughter, I'd only spesak to her if she was sober or off drugs. I said that to her a couple of times and apparently, she wasn't on anything. Buy it so made her mad that she shut up and wouldn't say anything to me because she was afraid I'll tell my friends that I refused to speak to her while she was on drugs or alcohol.

One week after school and she returned back to her state.....while drunk, she had a roller skating accident and broke her jaw. Wired shut for a month. Wish that had happened while she was with us and I wouldn't have had to heard her stupid mouth flapping.