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SD Texted and Apologized?! WHAT?

Dads_Wife's picture

So its been over a year since FSD14 went NC with us to punish her dad for having a woman in his life. He stood his ground and never caved. Last night, FSD texted me, apologizing for her attitude and behavior towards me, and wants to fix things because she's tired of being mad. What?!!! Well, its the most she's spoken in a year and she 'seemed' genuine. FDH thinks shes starting to set up to ask for a car in a year and a half, lol. We will see with that, but it does feel like some weight has been lifted. I have decided to keep healthy boundaries around her and be friendly when she is around but also try to keep as minimal contact as possible without being weird. I believe some of our problems arose because I was trying to hard. So here's to just being the fun aunt on the outside circle.

 

Cheers!

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hereiam's picture

the outside actually sounds better than the inside

Yep, just keep the relationship casual. Nothing good comes from getting too involved with kids that aren't yours.

At least your FDH can see that it could be a manipulation tactic. But even if it is, you guys are aware of it, and she may just learn something in the meantime.

My SD27 called me Sunday to wish me a Happy Mother's Day. First time ever, in 22 years (which I've always been fine with, I'm not her mother). DH said, "I wonder what she's up to." Indeed.

 

Dads_Wife's picture

FDH knows his daughter pretty well and he knows she is generally only out for her (been that way a long time). It doesn't mean he doesn't love her but he doesn't trust her, which is fine. Honestly no one should trust any 14 year old so it works. This whole year has been exhausting. Its hard to have that kind of strain in your relationship so I will be happy if it just stays neutral the way it is.

Oh what a relief.

Harry's picture

She may just trying a new way to screw up your life.  Since the old one is not working.  To her NC is not working,  Tryed it for a year and nothing came of it.  Time for her to switch up.   It will be mini wife time Dadddddy ,  She will try to push you a side if you let her in 

Dads_Wife's picture

Oh don't worry. Both FDH and I are well aware of her antics. I'm going in with boundaries and he honestly seems like he's waiting for the dog to bite again.

We shall see