I HATE my husbands ex-wife!!!!!!
I am 28 and my hubby is 39. We have a one year old son together and he has a 15 year old son. I can't stand his ex wife, she is absolutely CRAZY!!!! She got along with me until we said "I DO" 3 years ago. It has been HELL every since!
Let’s call her "B", she is very unstable and get evicted and bounces from place to place with their son. The most recent eviction was around last Thanksgiving and we don't really know where they are staying. My step son's school called my husband and told him his son would get kick out if they don’t get an address for him. My H gave them our address so we started getting mail from the school. We recently got an IEP report (report for kids in special education programs). We had no idea he was doing so badly in school because we are always lied to about school and we NEVER get report cards when we request to see them!
My SS is 15 and age equivalent to a 9 yr old in all areas in school!! I was horrified; I could not sleep thinking about my SS's potential going down the drain because he really is a kid that is bright and willing to learn! So my H and I wanted to sit down with the ex and discuss what we could do to fix the situation and the ex said for me to mind my business and I could not have anything to do with the situation, but my H could meet her for dinner on a Friday night to discuss anything alone!!!! NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN!
Needless to say, I stepped in to tell her I love her son and I want the best for him and I was willing to tutor him to get him on track ( my degree is in education and I use to be a teacher). She was so angry. She cussed me out and went on and on about how my H was hers first and he is her husband and all types of crazy things! I did forget to mention she is a LESBIAN!!!!!! I asked her why she is so concerned with my H b/c she is gay. That made her even angrier. This lead to her coming to my house at 10:30 at night last night!!! She was calling and calling, we didn’t answer and she just showed up at the door. My H went out to handle the situation but he is just too nice to her, if it was anybody else that would have never been tolerated! He allows her to say whatever she wants to me and there is little I can do.
She was driving back and forth down our quiet street beeping her horn and saying she was going to beat me and a lot of other things. My H did nothing!!! I called the police and I am just so upset. I don't know what to do about this situation. It just seems to be getting worse!
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well, one thing...you can
well, one thing...you can get report cards directly from the school, you do not need to go thru her. also DH can set up his own meetings with the school...without her. so if she is nuts..skip her and do it solo.
Very true thanks so much I
Very true thanks so much I will let him know that. He is very passive with my SS and he has never really taken the initiative to help his son as far as school is concerend. He always left it up to his ex... and look at where my SS is now!
You sound like a good
You sound like a good person. I agree with folkmom. It sounds like you really care. I would just forget about her. She sounds like she is so worried about controlling your DH, that she is forgetting the most important person which is SS.
If you want to tutor SS, then tutor him. If you want to talk to the teachers with DH without her, then you go right ahead. There is no need for her to know. Or just have DH do it alone, but you can be there to support him and SS.
I would just avoid that crazy nut, sounds like she just thrives on the drama.
I'm not sure how often you
I'm not sure how often you have the SS, but you can file a child in need of services petition and have the courts get involved if custody arrangement isn't working. In our case, it was the school who filed because SS (in 8th grade for the second time) was tardy all the time and flunking. Our DUMB BM could not help him stay on track and did not bother to involve DH (who had been the parent in that family) to nip this problem in the bud before court got involved. He found out when he was served! BM knew for 3 months this was coming.
Parents can file these, too, and it will force the issue and maybe take him away from her. It sounds like a very unstable home.
Two years later, after a bunch more trouble I won't go into here, SS is back on track grade level (went to charter school for a while).
And ps, somehow marriage brings out the worst in these psychos and even in-laws.
Thank for that advice
Thank for that advice LizzieA. I did not know that we could even do that:) I will have DH look into that!
Call the police and get a
Call the police and get a restraining order...period...wether your husband likes it or not, it is irrelevant...fact is that she is endangering the welfare of YOUR child and YOU need to protect YOUR child from this madness...Do NOT allow this to happen again without consequences or she WILL continue to do it...your baby is not old enough to realize all this mess, but senses the stress...you don't want him to be older and have her do some wacky thing in front of him...DO NOT ALLOW IT
this is very true. I keep
this is very true. I keep saying I will file one if it happens again. AND IT DOES, and then I do nothing about it! Thanks
Wow - lunatic much? I say
Wow - lunatic much?
I say ignore her as best you can but have DH let her know that if she shows up unannounced again, you will call the police again. And follow through on that.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
I feel you so much! They
I feel you so much! They just dont get that! If they dont stand up for us the BM's will KEEP doing stuff like this!! Thanks for the comment:)