Family Time
Visiting DPs extended family. DP left sooner I met up with them a few days later.
Had a nice late evening after arriving; SDs were asleep so we were able to get caught up. Next day SD9 is sick as a dog all day. We were driving up 4 hrs to the family cabin. Since we had to stop at restaurant I took SD9 to throw up, DP kept her solaced in car. Ok fine.
End of day she's better, 24 hr bug. Morning I can see she's much much better. Both SDs really clingy reaaalllllly clingy to DP. Relatives asking what's wrong with them, why aren't they eating? Yesterday SD11 having fun.
SD9 pouting. Clinging to daddy. Cover notices her watching DP and taking her opportunities to come over. Actively avoiding everyone. There's a group of really nice kids here 4 in her age group, not like she's the odd one out.
Today SD9 FINE. God but DP can't shake her. I had to literally swim out to a lone dock to get away. I had to walk away from a card game with DP because she joined in. Right now they are playing cards. She was sitting all by herself at the table until DP rescued her. Now she's fine. Oh but let's add the fake cough, which disappears once DP is paying attention.
THIS is why I don't want to travel with them. At least DP paid for this trip. Now I am going to go by myself AGAIN to do something. She should be put to bed or made to go with other kids. He can hang out with the 9yo, fine.
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Sounds fairly normal kid
Sounds fairly normal kid behavior to me, but vent however you need to function. As you said, your partner paid for this trip. If you want a trip kid-free, "you are now free to move about the cabin."
It's unusual for SD9. I was
It's unusual for SD9. I was expecting SD11 to act more like this. DP is annoyed too because it's so bad other people are annoyed and commenting and we haven't hardly had ten minutes to talk in three days. We did chat last night after SD9 went to bed. He was trying to tell me I was judging him. I was like, no. I am just irritated you are letting her get away with it. DP, to summarize, said that if he doesn't notice how she's acting I need to let him know. Then asked me why I hadn't helped him more. !! I remained calm. 1) DP you are her dad. You need to be aware and recognize when she's doing it. I cannot interrupt and adult conversation to say, Hey, DP, your daughter is being too annoying. Then I'm the bitch. Nope. 2) tried giving you suggestions yesterday but you don't want to hear them and got annoyed. Why would I try again?
It was a good talk so he's gong to try to be more aware today. Even though we leave.
I liked that it wasn't just me but multiple people seeing the food issues and behavior. Was very validating!
We ended up doing this. Left
We ended up doing this. Left her with a book and DP redirected her. He did get her out with the kids one time the last day. The trip home as utterly exhausting with SD9 cling. DP even said no long trips until this is better. Thank god. I am mandating small roller bags for the girls for ANY travel and THEY have to deal with their own stuff. They had two bags either of them could have easily carried but they refused. Could not make them do it AND make the plane. So we will change that up. And I slept on the floor last night. Long story but it was better than the bed option by far. DP knew at least that I was exhausted. Hard with all the new relatives and them watching me so close with the SDs. They loved me but it was a little odd a couple times because I walked away from two situations so DP could do it and I know they didn't get it.
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