Hugs to you!! My Mom passed away almost two years ago when I was 39. I'm not a bio mom, but I know my Mom would have been the person I would have talked to about parenting. She was my counselor, friend and confidant. She was just like your Mom in that she would always listen and would always give thoughtful advice.
I miss her beyond measure every day.

I feel for you. Lost my mom nine years ago (on Friday the thirteenth, no less) and I still grieve.

"I hate that my girls have no grandparents in their lives to spoil them"

Ladyface's suggestion is a good one. I was going to suggest the same thing. DH and I lost access to our gskids five years ago after I stood up to their narcissistic mother OSD, and we miss having littles to spoil. Some of our friends do share their kids with us, but they have multiple sets of grandparents so the slice we get is very thin. We would LOVE to be adopted by a young family!

Kids can benefit so much from being around older folks, so I hope you do find some honorary GPs for your bios.

Hugs to you Countrymom. Your post really touches me and made me sad as well. I lost my mother right after my 15 th birthday on Christmas Day. She had a long illness before so really it seems even longer that I had lost her. I've never recovered honestly. It was such a mess.
Treasure your memories hon. I know you do.

I know exactly how you feel. My mom passed away when I was 24 years old. My oldest was only 2 years old. She didn't get to see him much because we lived in different states. She loved being a grandmother (my oldest was the only grandchild she ever knew). My mom loved kids. She was a nanny prior to marrying my dad. I often think of how she would have loved my other two sons. My mom would have been able to understand step life. No one else around me seems to understand.

When my ex and I divorced, I often thought about her and how she would have been there for me. I would get so mad at my ex. His mother was alive and he only talked to her about once every three months. He would tell his mom all of our martial problems.

The last year of my mom's life, we talked every day. Sometimes twice a day. At that time, we had long distance bills. I never told her that we were having marital problems. She just knew exactly what to say to make me feel better.

I have been on the bandwagon of "it isn't fair, why is my mother not around?". I never knew my dad, he died when I was 4 years old. I only knew my mom's mom as a grandparent and she died around the same time as my mom died. I wasn't really that close to her though.

I have come to accept that because my mom isn't around anymore, I have become more dependent on myself and I push myself outside of my comfort zone a lot more. I do have really good days where I put one foot in front of the other and try not to deal on it and other days I still just want to sit around and cry. It does get easier with time.

Hugs to you Countrymom.

I'm a motherless mom. It will be three years without her this June. My mom meant the world to me. We were extremely close. Pretty much best friends. I miss her everyday and wish she were here to love on my toddlers. She was THE best grandmother to my oldest, growing up. I feel robbed, I feel my children are being robbed of that selfless and loving connection.

My in-laws are very mediocre people who think very highly of themselves. They have some pretty serious issues and they aren't a huge part of my children's lives - by my choice. It's rough at times.

I still have my mum although she and Dad live on the other side of the world. But when my 3rd child was 1 yr old my beloved grandma was killed in a car accident. I miss her wisdom every single day. My 2 youngest never knew her and her abundant love. She taught me to knit and crochet. She told me about her life in the early 20th century. My younger 2 children got to know my grandfather who passed away at 94. But oh how they would have loved her. OK even typing this brings tears to my eyes and she would have been 105 this year ....
why don't you just talk to her like she is there? I am sure she will let you know she is around. And if you don't believe in that at least you will let go some of the pain and loss. I often talk to my grandparents. Sometimes they are around, sometimes not.

I believe that when so much love happens nothing can stop it reaching across time and space. Know your mother is around and thinks you are doing a fine job.