Another helpless skid story
SS13 brought down the garbage can from his room to empty it into the kitchen garbage can. It was full already so when he dumped all the contents, it became too full and not everything fit. After spending a minute watching him pick up things off of the floor and try to stuff everything in the can only to have it all fall out again, I said:
Me - Since the bin is full, what might make more sense to do instead of trying to shove everything in to make it fit.
SS13 - *dumb blank stare*
Me - Perhaps taking the garbage out would be a good idea.
SS13 - Yeah but I don't know how to doooooo it *whiny voice*
Me - Take the bag out.
SS13 - I caaaaan't
Me - Take the lid off. Now pull the bag up by the yellow drawstrings.
SS13 - It's too heavy
Me - Use your muscles and pull the bag out. Now tie it up. *watches SS spin the ties around themselves over and over*
SS13 - I don't know how to tie
Me - *mental brain sigh and serious eye twitch* Seriously SS? Do it like this *shows him how to tie*
SS13 - *struggles to do a basic tie and just looks at me*
Me - I am NOT doing this for you. You have to learn how to do things in life.
SS13 - *finally manages to tie it...once*
Me - Now do it again so the bag doesn't come open. *waits* Now take the bag out to the black bin
SS13 - *comes back in and stands with arms open and dumb blank stare*
Me - Get another back and put it in the bin. *has to explain where the bags are, how to tear one off the roll and then how to open it*
SS13 - *struggles to get the bag in because he only extended it half way so the bottom half of the bag is still folded up*
Me - You have to make sure the bag is fully opened before putting it in the bin.
SS13 - But I diiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid *whiny voice*
Me - You did not or else you wouldn't be struggling to open it.
This is why I am disengaged. I shouldn't have said anything and won't from now on. I have disengaged completely and have been doing so much better. DH and I don't argue over it anymore and DH has stepped up and started to parent. Apparently not enough to teach his teenage son how to tie but baby steps, right? *eye twitch*