Teaching SS6 SOME independence??
If you havent read my other entries, SS6 has a CRAZY BM...
SS6 had been living primarly with BM his whole life until this year when we were granted temp full custody..
Am I wrong, but should a 6 year old be able to entertain themselves a LITTLE? It has been driving me CRAZY! SD4 has NO PROBLEM playing with her toys, creating stories, just being creative in general... When SS is at school, I can get SO MUCH accomplished around the house b/c I'm not having to entertain SS...
The past few days I have taken a step back to observe SS... He CANNOT entertain himself.. he is constantly following either myself or DH around the house until one of us entertains him... The toys that he got for Xmas, he will only play with if myself or DH is playing with him. Today for example, I was doing laundry and needed DH to help clean up the kitchen but SS would not leave the kitchen. All he was doing was standing there waiting. I asked if he could please go play in his room with his toys for a bit so we could get the house picked up..that lasted maybe 10 minutes, then sure enough he was right back standing in the kitchen again. DH went to play with him after constant baggering of SS to "come play with me daddy come play with me" but when play time was up and DH had to stop so we could continue to get the house picked up a bit SD wanted to play with SS but nope, not ok. SS was done playing and again standing in the kitchen. Is this a sign that something may be wrong? Is he trying to compensate for lack of attention he received from BM for the past 6 years? I totally get kids want to be played with 24/7, but watching SD have the ability to entertain herself, and have some independence then looking at SS who just doesn't it slightly concerns me... I would love more then anything to be able to play with both of them all day everday, but we do have other things that need to take place; ie-cleaning, cooking, laundry etc that the skids don't do.. HELP ME!?! Should we be concerned? How do we teach SS a little independence, or at least enough to be able to play on his own??
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a simple solution would be to
a simple solution would be to teach the child to help you with the tasks you are doing. Fold laundry, help with the kitchen chores, take out he trash,etc.
Unfortunately I've tried to
Unfortunately I've tried to engage SS into helping with what I'm doing - laundry, trash etc... and he will do it for a few minutes then he doesn't want to do it anymore and goes back to just standing there or following me around waiting to be entertained
I used to tell my SKids at
I used to tell my SKids at that age "Go be independent! Have FUN!!!"...yes, I'd have to repeat it every 10 minutes but eventually, they got the point & are now independent children...most of the time.
My SD is the same way. She
My SD is the same way. She will be 14 next month!!!!
My son is like that he's the
My son is like that he's the younger of my two so he always had sissy to play with but now their age difference shows, well it started around when she was 15 he was 10. We had to seach for things he'd really get into on his own besides video games, turns out it's science. Yours is younger my mom says sometimes she'd have to send my sis and I off and ignore my brother to get him to learn to play (he was the baby and only 13 mo. between he and our sister) She said she was harsh on him and he was always supervised but I think my parents grounded him to his room a lot just to make him play by himself. It worked, he's still a bratty little attention seeking youngest but he's better since we all ignore his attention seeking and he's got a family of his own.
This may sound silly but have
This may sound silly but have you thought about putting him in martial arts? It isn't about the actual moves but about teaching self disapline.
I also agree with making him help with the work. He can fold clothes, sort clothes, load the dishwasher, unload the dishwasher etc. http://www.homeschool-your-boys.com/chores-for-kids-4-8.html
Plus, it might make him so over it he will leave you alone so he doesn't have to help! hahahaha!