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cocoxo's picture

Wanted to know if anyone has ever gotten a response like this from their husband...

So our baby (my first, and my husband's third) is 4 months old. He's starting to teethe so he has gone back to waking up every 2 hours during the night. In the morning, my husband and stepdaughter make so much noise, that they wake the baby at 6:30. Needless to say, I only get about 5 1/2 hours of sleep a night and it's in 1- 1 1/2 hour increments. I'm exhausted. I ask my husband constantly to be quiet in the morning and to help with the baby when he get home from work. No help. I'll be making dinner while my husband plays video games and if the baby cries, I literally have to turn off the stove to go tend to him. My husband won't help. I don't have time to nap during the day because I have to pick up after our family of 5 and do everyone's laundry, etc. All I want is just a few minutes of downtime when he gets home. Yesterday I said to him, "Since this is your third kid, you'd think you'd know how to handle a baby by now."

His response was, "I've figured out that the best way to handle a baby is to just let the mother take care of him". Can anyone out there find the humor in that? I certainly can't. Maybe I'm just too exhausted!

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DaizyDuke's picture

I would have said, "well then I've found the best way to handle skids is to let their father take care of them."

Quit picking them up, doing laundry and cooking and see if DH doesn't start singing a different tune.

Sexybaby's picture

Yep that's what I started doing. Whenever SS5 comes to me for a drink go to the bathroom or anything I say go tell/ask your dad. SS5 is here to see you not me DH needs to tend to SS5 not me I only tend to my children

stepfamilyfriend's picture

His response was rude for sure, if he wasn't joking. But the way you put it....you had to expect something back, also. Instead of saying " since this is your third kid......", just ask/demand for help, without a smartass comment. This is something I have done also; feel that it is legitimate to make a smartass comment, then be all surprised if it got me negative reply. You need and deserve a break, that is for sure. You should not have to drop the world to tend to him either, you are spoiling him and then he will expect it and demand that it continues. Just hand him the baby, with a smile, and say :" here you go, honey" then go somewhere to get a little rest, even if you have to drive off and take a nap in the car.