Crayon's blog on Gratuitious visits in preparation for a birthday got me thinking. SD15 hasn't seen or spoken to BF in six months-- since he found out she flunked the ENTIRE (including PE) 9th grade. (No- we don't get copies of grades, BM won't give us password to on-line grades, BM won't let BF go to PT conferences so it was a bit of a shock to learn at the end of the school year that she has flunked not just a few classes, but many over the course of the entire school year. Probably several grades for all we know.)

Long story short, we wanted to enact some serious changes and give her some serious consequences for her behavior at school. Of course by trying to be the responsible side of the family, it all ended up blowing up in our faces and now we are mean, awful, uncaring and BM is now doing even more to enable SD15's behavior that resulted in such wonderful grades in the first place.

Of course, my life and stress level have been much more manageable the last 6 months since they haven't been speaking to us and EOW visits have ceased. (I found this site about 6 months ago during the height of the drama- so glad its here.)

Back to Crayon's blog. I started to wonder with Christmas just around the corner, if SD was going to all the sudden decided she wanted to see her dad just in time to drop hints about Christmas. She has a lot of damage to un do (didn't call on father's day ect...) Well I get home last night to news that SD has emailed and "might" want to do something with her dad on Sunday.

I would like to think she really does want to see her dad, but after 5 years of manipulation by SD and her BM, I'm pretty sure it is about gifts. Teenage girls are the best manipulators I've ever seen. Anyone else starting getting gratuitous visitation in the build up to Christmas?