Maybe this was all a mistake....
That is all I can think ALL the time!! DH and I are genuinely VERY happy....when SS5 is NOT HERE!! However, DH loves him very much and just does not see that the only consistency to the arguments is SS!! When it is just DH, myself, and my BS5 and BS7 the house is happy, relaxed and calm and every single Sunday we pick up SS5 all hell breaks loose. The kids is a certifiable NUT. I have tried and tried to just be nice and understand that he has some serious issues going on inside his own head but the moment he starts gritting his teeth at BS5 I want to throw him into his room! I honestly have no idea what to do anymore....Today BS5 was spraying himself with my perfume SS5 decided he wanted the bottle for himself grabs BS5 around the neck BS5 punches him in the stomach (Now mind you we are not a violent family by ANY means- SS5 brings this into the home and has since taught BS5 to behave this way towards him) SS5 starts screaming and crying slams the door to his bedroom knocking several picture frames off the wall....DH decides both need to spend time in their bedrooms. UHHHH I would have punched SS5 in the stomach as well!! However, me choosing my sons side makes me the bad guy....
We are also having to sell our home in the near future due to a Balloon on our mortgage that cannot be changed. My DH has an incredible opportunity to move us from Michigan to Arizona with a great pay increase and homes that are less than half of what we would pay here and Much larger. My EX-H has already agreed to terms on visiting with my DS's however what is keeping us here wondering what will happen next SS5 OF COURSE!!! DH is currently fighting BM for full custody (that explanation would be an entirely different story so lets just say she is Slut-mom of the year) and Court is in about 2 weeks, even though I am positive nothing is going to change then either like the other million court dates. So we are here sitting and wondering what will come next all because of this SS5. If I had known what I know now, or listened to EVERYONE who told me to run and run fast from having a SS I completely would have! I am so sick of it all and completely at the point that I Would love to just Move myself and my DS's to Arizona ALONE!!!
HOW DOES EVERYONE DEAL WITH THE HEADACHES??!!!???!
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AH! Sounds all too familiar!!
AH! Sounds all too familiar!! When DH is at work SS5 is usually for the most part pretty normal. He knows the rules and follows them. Mind you the rules are not anything out of the norm (pick up after yourself, not run around screaming like a moron, no fighting ) but the MOMENT DH walks into the door the child is screaming and crying while my DS's look at him like he is insane, hanging on DH, making this god awful noises like a baby, and just all around annoying!! DH is totally annoyed about it too but I think he feels bad, and feels even worse because my DS's are not morons and dont behave that way and are just all around more enjoyable to be around!
It Must be a SKID thing and I think they would probably be better off with the mothers....only a mother can love a child who acts like a fool! GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
The kid sounds awful, but I
The kid sounds awful, but I can't imagine moving away with SKs (no matter how great they are) and leaving my BK behind.
The kid sounds awful, but I
The kid sounds awful, but I can't imagine moving away with SKs (no matter how great they are) and leaving my BK behind.
To say the least.....but yes
To say the least.....but yes I totally agree I would not be able to either! Its so easy to think lets just go without him when its not your own child still sucks nonetheless!
ExDF has a clause in his
ExDF has a clause in his court order that says the CP can't move more that 50 miles away without dad and the court's OK. BM told him last fall that she was moving to Maryland (we're in NYC). He said "Cool, I'm sure you will love it there, but my kids aren't leaving New York".
Last I heard, BM's having a huge facebook tantrum because he won't agree to the move.
Why doesn't your DH whoop him
Why doesn't your DH whoop him a good one and tell him to knock the shit off? I mean, I get it- he's only 5. I'm not being literal. I mean figuratively, of course.
If he is relatively normal all day and then acts a fool when DH is around, OBVIOUSLY your SS is getting some pay off from your DH for acting this way. Otherwise he would not do it.
At this point DH does
At this point DH does nothing....he is too "scared" because he and BM are in a nasty custody battle. ((EYE ROLL))!!!
He basically tells him to knock it off or he is going to have no tv but the behavior continues.
At his BM house he is her "side-kick" and "tag along" to parties so he has absolutely NO discipline when gone...he absolutely needs to get a good whooping!!!!
And it's the kid who's a
And it's the kid who's a moron.
To answer some of your
To answer some of your questions....
- we have ss5 75% of the month with BM only have 25% so we are not one day and every other weekend. With 95% of the daily issues directly because of BM.
- I have several relatives and friends in Arizona, thus the move being even more exciting
- the court battle has not just begun, this is years in the making.
- we have near to no court fee's.... We are very fortunate that my aunt is an attorney who practices in family law here .
And I can in no way rationalize our house payment going over $2,000/ mo for the rest of my life