So, I have a question - being new to the group I was told yesterday in my post to read about disengaging. I found it very interesting. Since I am new to this stepparenting thing becuase I am engaged and not living together yet, wouldn't it be a good idea to start off this way? Start off by disengaging? Right now, my issues with my SD are her spoiled antics. She is not disrespectful towards me (at least not yet because her father is on top of that). She is spoiled and loud (needs to be heard). I have never and never will discipline her. I already feel that is not my place nor do I want it to be. I do have to talk with my fiance because I think he thinks I will just take over the "mom role", and I will make it clear that will not happen. I am not her mom and I will not pretend to be. She has a mom - a documented mental case, but she has one. So, why not start off this way - right??