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When the advice doesn't work for stepparents

Bojangles's picture

Have you seen this clip of Bill Murray giving relationship advice at a bachelor party?

http://www.popsugar.com/Bill-Murray-Gives-Speech-Bachelor-Party-Video-34...

It's great advice in the sense that it advocates really testing your relationship and seeing the other person at their best and worse before committing. But it occurred to me that the real exception here is stepfamily situations, it just doesn't cover the stepchild factor. You could easily do the trip he suggests, find that the other person is everything you were looking for in a partner when it's just the two of you, and then find that a year or so on stepfamily issues had completely soured things. The way that otherwise smart, rational, insightful, fun men can become obtuse, irrational, blinkered and life-sapping when it comes to co-parenting their children from a previous relationship has to be experienced to be believed.

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Bojangles's picture

That's a good point, trying to live with someone else's children can bring out anxieties and sensitivities and irritations you never expected.