First, I would make certain that the problem is with you. Just because SO had children with others, does not mean that he still can have children. And if you do have a problem, it might we something minor which can be fixed. Go to your doctor and find out. Good luck.

I'm so sorry you feel so low. I like you did all the right things -masters degree,good job,waited for Mr Right & no baby for me either.In my case it's been just over 3 years,we already have 1 failed IVF under our belt and are hoping to try another round in the New Year.I too get very bitter as DH knocked BM up "accidentally" yet when we were being investigated for infertility in addition to my problems it came to light we have male factor issues too.I too find some days worse than others {{{hugs}}}.

I am sorry you are going through this. Sending hugs your way. I worry about this myself and it can be brutal to be a part of a family that feels not quite yours with no bios.

We are going on year four of trying. I think I'm taking a break this year. I'm tired of the hormones and the schedule s and the heart break . .

I battled infertility for 4 years myself. And dogtac69 is right. My DH was more of the "problem" than me even though he had SD. His count was non-existent when we finally starting seeing specialists. My problem was minor compared to his and we tried 2 rounds of IVF. I personally think the meds did something to my body that was like turning on a switch and let me then conceive. I firmly believe that you should never give up hope if you want a baby. If I had listened to my DH, we probably wouldn't have children right now because I was the driving force in it.

That all said, I don't wish infertility on anyone, and I think it is hardest on those of us with spouses who have children from other people. I couldn't stand hearing SD's name or stand having her around when I was at my lowest. *HUGS* to you...I know it's hard!

10 years infertility. It is amazing how this colored my Life and marriage. BS-13 from ICSI, AH, IVF ... my best and only surviving ...

{{Hugs}} The infertility roller-coaster is horrible --- especially when you see all the women who are able to pop out babies willy-nilly.

You are NOT barren, you are blissfully FREE from all kinds of crap that comes with child-rearing.
You could be in Paris tomorrow if you wanted to fly around the world. You could climb every mountain, ford every stream - and have the money to do that. You are NOT a failure but you are experiencing a failure of imagination. In reality sky is the limit for you. You do not need kids to live a fulfilling life. You think you do but you don't.

Please take my words seriously. The urge to procreate is a very powerful urge, but it blinds women to what comes next. It does not always work out the way you want it to. At work i see parents of kids with serious issues every day. How they get through some of their days I have no idea.

At home I keep telling DH that in my next life i will be child-free and will only be interested in men who are child-free. Parenthood is greatly overrated. Just like you 19 years ago i was wishing and wondering, taking pills to help me get pregnant. Today i have 2 teenagers. My older son will be 18 in 2 weeks. I cannot wait for the mothering years to end!! I want to be my own person again, and do whatever i please. I envy you and would trade places with you in a NY minute.

{{{{Hugs}}}}
It took us 2 1/2 years to have DS12. The hormones, tests, everyone in god's creation looking at your hoo-ha... i wish it on no one. There are quite a few of us with issues here. Feel free to vent away.

It took me years, several surgeries, and several rounds of IVF to have DD. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Don't ever, EVER say you are a failure because you can't get pregnant. You are as valid a person as those who can carry children. You are a worthy person and I won't let you say otherwise!