wtf is wrong w BM
OK so today was the Easter egg hunt at school for ss... DH didnt tell bm bc she never goes to any school functions... so on facebook bm sees pics of a mutual friend of ours and hers w/ her little boy at school for the egg hunt...... so messages between BM and DH
BM: did you know son had a Easter Egg hunt today
DH : yeah
BM: couldnt let a girl know
BM: i can take off work to go to cute things like that
DH: what you talking bt we didnt go its for the kids he hunts eggs w/ us on Easter
BM: THeres a bunch of parents there
DH i didnt even know you could go
BM: Gotcha well you could LOL.. I see mutual friend and her little boy and a bunch of other parents
what person in their right mind says i can take off work for "cute things" but never comes to any parent teacher meetings or anything in that nature please tell me im not going crazy here
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To answer your question, a
To answer your question, a shit stirring BM who was trying to get a reaction from your H.
In the future, his response should be forwarding the website to the school event calendar.
He's not responsible to inform BM of school events. If she's interested, then she should get the information herself.
Just like my H did when skid was in middle and high school.
This was our situation with
This was our situation with NCP BM. When I was a new stepmom I (STUPIDLY/NAIVELY) thought it was my responsibility to keep her informed. She never, ever assed herself to find out anything for herself. Eventually I stopped trying (she didnt show up most of the time anyway) and I decided it was up to HER to give a crap enough to find out by herself. After all, she was TEH MOMMMM. Thank God my skids have aged out of needing 98% of parental "interference" for communicating these types of things. And there IS a difference between purposefully holding back/lying about/omitting pertinent information and letting the damned BM take a frikkin interest in her own children!!
that is what i have told him
that is what i have told him to do but if i dont do it, it would not be done
Parenting should only be cute
Parenting should only be cute and fun, didn't you know that? Geez.
Damn I knew I was doing it
Damn I knew I was doing it wrong!
i was in complete shock when
i was in complete shock when my dh sent me screen shot of the convo not bc this isnt normal for her... but bc she said cute things i can take off work for .. but eowe when see is to pick him up from dc she is late picking him up or her parents need to do it for her bc she needs to work late ect... as a mother i dont understand
no this past christmas she
no this past christmas she didnt want him until 5 oclock christmas day bc she had other things to do ... Easter she wanted to trade weekends so she wouldnt have him but dh and i told her weekends were staying the same bc we plan things in advance due to my job and she is always last minute w everything
How did this poor kid end up
How did this poor kid end up with two useless parents? Mom wanted to attend so she could pretend to be something she isn't. Dad had no idea parents could even attend
Read the OP's other blogs.
Read the OP's other blogs. Both mom and dad are using the OP. They are both POS parents.
He didn't even know that
He didn't even know that attending was an option. The OP does EVERYTHING for that kid. Both parents are useless.
i agree that neither is
i agree that neither is better than the other but i do what i can for the kid bc obviously he got dished not so great parents... but then sometimes on here i get backlash bc i do take over
I think a lot if the backlash
I think a lot if the backlash comes from a good place. People are just trying to tell you to focus on you and your child. Your husband and BM need to be responsible for their kid.
but i cant just ignore the
but i cant just ignore the child he lives in my home 99% of the time (except eowe).... i get well you need to worry about u and ur son... but then get well you need to be there more for ss... how i cant be his mom and i know that but i have to do what is in the best interest for him and i try but yes sometimes its pointless bc dh comes behind me and just does something i say no 2 but what ever ... yes i get tired of my dh when he does this we talk about it and all i hear is you have a favorite (do i not have a right to care more about my birth child) not to him bc i knew he had a son when i meet him and then ss thinks i am mean bc i get onto him bc bm doesnt get onto him and dh acts like well i need to be overly lenient on you bc your a child of split homes (they were never married just had a baby together she got pregnant on purpose said she was on birth-control and was not and that doesnt give my dh the ok for not using protection but geez....... but whatever
yes i work from 8 to 5 , dh
yes i work from 8 to 5 , dh works from 7 to whenever (completely random times)... and dh thinks i should not treat the kids any different ... if you mean paying for me to live then no not exactly i mean he pays for house , his truck ds daycare (i pay for ss bc its cheaper during the school year) and house bills... but i pay my car and ss daycare and anything else that needs to be done... and i think he lets me do it when im not getting onto his son for (stupid) things as he would call them (shooting 2yo w nerf gun ect) bc he is lazy bc i have just always done it since i came into the picture when ss was so young i just picked up mother role bc bm was in jail for first 6 month of our relationship and it just continued after that
i agree 100% i guess i just
i agree 100% i guess i just dont know how to let go of something i have just always taken care of and i am 100% the only one being taken advantage of by DH and BM (dh out of guilt and bm bc she doesnt care) ... and i can not stand dh turning around and telling ss yes when i say no bc ss gets it and then he thinks its ok just to ignore everything i say no matter what its about... last night i tell him to eat then we will do homework and go play out side ugh well dad said i didnt have to eat all of my meal ( dh never said that) ... he thinks that if he doesnt eat that we will go outside faster which didnt happen bc then its setting examples for my 2yo and i refuse to let my 2yo act like 6 yo ss
dh never gets to do any of
dh never gets to do any of that at school stuff bc he works all the time so normally i go bc ss says mom will you go with me and normally i am in a situation where i can go but today was not one of those i had a meeting at work and could not miss it... not excusing my dh for not knowing parents could join
no she only goes to the
no she only goes to the things that she can post on facebook to look like a good mom... we have both myself and my dh trying to get her to attend things and she never shows and ss gets his heart broken and we are the ones to pick up pieces... she doesnt come to his parent teacher meeting when he is misbehaving in school to find out what we can all do to fix what ever problem he may be having in school its just the CUTE Stuff she wants to attend
he doesnt send me i am able
he doesnt send me i am able to take off when he isnt so i gladly go my ss is happy with me going he calls me mom and bm his other mom ... he was barely able to get off to be with me in the hospital to have our son
he is for the most part he
he is for the most part he and his parents have a family owned and operated company in our town and its just my dh (FIL sometimes) MIL (bookkeeper and scheduler) and one helper so they stay pretty busy
well normally since i am the
well normally since i am the only one that keeps up with anything vacations, events ect i am the one reminding both hey this is coming up or that... but its something i do bc im a little ocd... and i write everything down lol..... and yeah my dh cant go to everything he has to be at work at 7 in the morning and cant be late or the job is all messed up... so if i can squeeze it in to what i do then i do so my ss has someone and in our case bm sees ss eowe and works for a restaurant nothing ever fits into her schedule unless it can be posted on facebook and make her look good... but i have friends that are mutual of hers and they tell me (which i do not ask for) how she says how we make co- parenting so difficult blah blah blah ... so at that point i stopped telling her i use to get pics made and give her copies and about 3 years ago i just stopped bc it was pointless
thank you for the last
thank you for the last statement....
and no i just know how she is about the facebook thing she is blocked from Facebook and i have asked our mutual friends not to talk to me about her but when they see things i think they think nothing about it and just tell me bc they think i want to know ( i dont care) and i think i will start the sending calender out to her and him that is a good idea thru my google calender (my OCD habits lol)
and i try and push him to help at home especially when he is going to come behind me and make it all better for ss so he doesnt have to listen to me
thank you so much i will hav
thank you so much i will hav to try it the next time something happens where he comes back and undermines me i really appreciate it
I must give BM props. Maybe
I must give BM props. Maybe she would have gone. I get texts demanding pics of events. Cute pics. Lol.
only to look like MOTY not bc
only to look like MOTY not bc she loves her son but bc it looks good on Facebook
Yeah. I forgot to add
Yeah. I forgot to add sarcasm. Lol.
i figured that but never to
i figured that but never to careful lol
No one is anyone secretary.
No one is anyone secretary. Period.
DH - look at the calendar
BM - look at the calendar
SM - have a glass of wine and ignore those two idiots. }:)
that would be great if i
that would be great if i drank lol.... and i am going to try and cut back bc i am always the one that is stressed out about all of it...