grrr Why do BM always have to have it there way! or nothing at all!
My BF is currently going through a very annoying divorce... we met long after they separated and it just started when i met.. and 2 yrs later its still going on!
i don't understand why on earth BM think they have the right to take the LOT!
my partner met her with 50k saved up to buy a house, the house is in his name.. he paid every single repayment alone and did it all himself she never paid rent, never offered to put in anything.. he ended up buying in a great suburb and is going to make a fantastic return... she is now claiming that she deserves 70% of the value of the house because she has the kids 70% of the time! i know she cant take that but she will get half
she put the kids in 7 different activities for the year and expect him to pay the lot! its just insane... also wanting them to go 2 the top private schools and he foots the bill for his own place, she is still living in this place rent free and thinks he isn't pulling his weight!
she is on a pretty good wage herself. He earns a fair bit more but i really think its so unfair he did nothing wrong it was a mutual split and he has work his butt off and he might lose it all!
she wasn't a stay at home parent, she has a career.. i would understand a stay at home mum not wanting to feel she is getting kicked out with nothing, but she doesn't understand that she has to rely on her own wage and not his if she wants to do certain things!
she was even crazy enough to ask him to pay 10k to go on a overseas trip so wanted to take them on!! what the!!!
my DH is trying his best to keep calm and not take the bait. but i feel like calling her up and saying F OFF!! go get your own life and realise you have a budget and maybe you should pull your finger out and not spend $300 a week on clothes and getting your hair done and save some money to raise your own kids!!
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well i live in Australia so
well i live in Australia so the laws here at much different to the US... it actually is alot more on the fathers side and to make everything alot fairer. if he agrees 2 pay there private school etc he doesnt have to pay her CS at all...
he has saved every single email, txt msg and logged every phone call in relation to everything to all her insane demands have been documented.. but as far as i know nothing will hold up if they end up in court and the judge will laugh in her face!!
with the house more then likey he is going 2 get 55% and she will get 45%... (such BS!)
he has a real asshole of a lawyer who is going to kick her butt, but its just disgusting. like no-one cheated she isnt out for revenge she is just wanting everything but she didnt put in any money for anything why should she get the return for it i find that the annoying part.
Just let him handle it.
Just let him handle it. She's looking for a reaction and the best one that you can give her is none at all. DH seems to be smart enough to not take the bait, as you said, and I understand that it's ridiculous and frustrating but don't engage her. Start documenting all of this - it may come in handy some day.
If the house was always in his name and he's made all of the payments, she's entitled to nothing. He can tell her to take him to court over that and they'll laugh her right out of there.
As for the extracirricular stuff, you can always modify any agreement to specifically add that in there. Whatever percentage he's paying in CS could be the percentage of what he pays for this and she'll pay the rest.
What is the current agreement?
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
oh trust me he has the
oh trust me he has the patience of a saint! i read a email from her and get bright red in the face angry! and he is just calm and responds with no bitterness which i find amazing! and i think thats what is annoying her sooo much is that she cant get a rise out of him
the house and loan is 100% in his name and her name isnt on anything.. he doesnt want the kids to be homeless etc but he is paying the mortgage still, plus his place and schools fees and so much more! but he asked her to start chipping in rent and she told him to shove it! so they both wanted to not waste money with lawyers but now he is hired the most asshole lawyer who is very well known so he is just going to be hard ball now!
with the after school activities he is going to allow them 2 each a year.. so its 4 activities but the kids has also got to learn they cant have everything handed to them which is what they are used to at the moment!!
Sorry, but now that I see
Sorry, but now that I see how much of a stall a divorce can put on some people's lives, I almost feel bad for my ex. Almost. He could have filed, but wanted me to do it. So, seeing as how he was getting on with his life without the decree, my not having the money or the time to do it since I have my own life, I've only just gotten around to filing this year. Oops.