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Bazil1234's picture

I do a lot for my stepdaughter. She just doesn't appreciate it. And always blames me for everything as to why she is either stressed or upset. 

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Kes's picture

Welcome to the site!  It would be helpful if you want us to comment on your situation, or give you advice - if you could provide a little more background information.  For instance - what her age is - whether she lives with you - what your partner's stance is - etc and some examples of the interactions you find frustrating.   

Chmmy's picture

Im big time the scapegoat for all that goes wrong especially with SD16. Forget that her mother abandoned all 4 of them & told DH to come get them. He pulled up & she basically waved from the moving truck with her boyfriend with the kids stuff on the street. I turned my life upside down to take care of these kids but somehow Im the bad guy.

I have disengaged because this is not the fault of the children but their parents. Their mom sucks & hurts them over & over. Dad, my DH, sucks too. He lives for the moment, gives in to everything and never considers the well being of the child but gives in to their needs for instant gratification.

I cant care more than the parents to so things I would have never allowed, i just don't care anymore. I let DH handle it and it turns into a shit show at times but I have no bios here so I can leave or hide in my room. From experience I've learned i can't take it personal.

Ive also just started the book Stepmonster. I hear it's helpful. I hope this helps