Something Must Have happened to DH
OK - for those of you who have not read my previous entries - my DH has been being a jerk. - PLain and simple. But today - he is being one step above a jerk. Not quite nice, but almost polite.
So let's review the facts and see what might be happening....
On Saturday - he left the house to pick up the skids. The youngest was at a relatives house and the oldest I was not privy to that information (again DH being a dickhead - not letting me in on what is happening with the oldest and USUALLY the youngest). When he gets back he has an extra kid with him. WOW - with all the tension in the house - what a great idea...bring another kid into a stressful situation! Even if it is only for an overnight visit. Plus, we had already had a conversation in the past, that we are not to have extra kids in the house without consulting the other parent - it is rude and inconsiderate.
SO when the skids and the friend are out of ear shot I ask him what the hell he is doing and if his flipping phone is broken...his answer is... it is none of my business, since I have nothing to do with the skids!!! Then he says "BTW Jake is going to be spending the night" as he goes to walk out the door - my response is not very polite but it is "fuck you". Normally - my language is not that bad - only when I am really ticked off.
And the funny thing is...I was typing in my journal when he got home. Which I know he has got to wonder either what I am typing or who I am writing to.
So that brings up my 2nd scenerio. I am now constantly typing on the computer - onto a journal that is SUPPOSED to help with my anger issues. But DH does not know that.
Scenerio 3 - Since the situation on Saturaday, I have given him the silent treatment.
Scenerio 4 - I got a phone call from an old friend, I haven't talked to her for several months. When I talked to her I got up and left the room. He didn't know who I was talking to and I never told him.
Or he could have realized that he has been a jackass and started to change on his own. Basically - yesterday he told me he was leaving to take Jake home. Today he has left a couple of times and each time he has told me he was leaving. Granted he hasn't said where he was going - but at least it is a start.
I am not going to give in and start kissing his feet any time soon - he has a lot to make up for, but hopefully he is starting to pull his head out of his ass!
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Did you really SAY "Fuck
Did you really SAY "Fuck You!" ?
Ahh yes - I really said "fuck
Ahh yes - I really said "fuck you" and then he walked out the front door to his garage. And I went back to typing into my journal!
Sounds like you have got to
Sounds like you have got to one of those points where you have had it, not taking anymore, fed up and simply not willing to take anymore crap....I have been there. I too have gotten very angry with my husband at how blind he is to situations, how much responsibility and blame have been tossed my way and how insensative he can be. The more of this you take, the more it beats at you, beats you up emotionally.
My husband I have been together 22 years.....at first just the sweetest guy, listened to me, was interested in me, helped me with things, we did things together. It was almost as soon as I said "I do" that he changed. By the time we were married a year I felt I had made a mistake, we didn't even celebrate our first anniversary.
I can so identify with what you posted here and feel for what you are dealing with.
Sunday nite husband's father called, I answered the phone and started walking towards husband to hand him the phone. I tell him who it is and he gives me this look of disgust and says, "I know." I would never do this to anyone, it was such a demeaning reaction. I have a new car and could not figure out which container was the windshield wiper fluid. Husband goes out and comes in saying, "you mean the one that has the wiper symbol on it?" What? So I asked him why he was so demeaning towards me. Asked him if it made him feel good about himself to put me down. To me it was not apparent the symbols were wipers. His react, "why do you always have to take things so personally." Wow! I was so ticked but I know he is never going to change. I told him I was tired of his put downs and his acting like I was nothing but scum under his feet. I could go on and on. Just tired of it all!