I did not realize their was a group one can join to vent frustration..lol
I too have step children that I cant stand. I moved in with my fiance and he had his 4 children disrespecting him, his best friend mooching off of him, and his ex-step daughter that was 24 and also mooching off of him. I told BF that shit had to change. I moved in and we quickly set into action. 24 yr old had to find a job, best friend had to look for a job, and children had to decide if where we planned on moving to was going to fit them. If not they had 6 months to save money and move out. I told ex step daughter she needed to save money because my BF wasnt going to support her anymore. After 6 months had passed 24 yr old had no money saved, his best friend lived with his sister and 2 of his older children moved in with his sister, my soon to be sister in law. His youngest 2 sons moved in with us in an apartment. His sister trashes my name online, calls me curse words in public, etc.
His only daughter hates me, and his ex step daughter is a loser. they are both lazy, fat, moochers. My BF were high school sweethearts and we split up because I wanted to get out and travel. He wanted to stay in the rinky dinky town he still lives in. He is a good man..has all his teeth lol, doesn't drink alcohol, non smoker, drug free, works hard, etc..I am also drug free, non smoker, and do not drink alcohol. I am in my 40s and to find a man like this is rare at my age. My only issue is his family. His ex wife is bi-polar and his ex step daughter is as well...fucking mental people. His daughter is weird and lazy. His two oldest sons are respectful and industrious people. His youngest son is like his mother from what my BF says. He is lazy, uneducated, no desire to learn, wants the easy way out of everything, disrespectful, selfish, Me Me attitude in everything, drags his feet in everything if he has to do any work..when he finishes whatever work he has to do ..the work is sloppy, not done well, dishes yucky, rooms messy, etc...so frustrating.

so far my BF soon to be hubby is okay with me disliking his son. He says he loves me and backs me up when I enforce rules. Problem I have is BF works so much and a rotating schedule it is difficult for BF to help enforce the rules. I feel like I am the main one teaching this boy I do not like to mind. I had 1 child and I stopped at one for a reason..lol