Early in our marriage I was highly involved with the skids. I did what all of us did. I went to the games, the school events. I loved it.

As the kids all got older I color coded my day timer. Everyone's schedule was in the family bible. I showed it to the skids. They new what I did.

If bm sent an email I reminded dh to respond. I helped construct emails.

Sd turned 15, crap started happening. She got mad at dh when she would want to do something and he'd say I need to check with 12 yr. He was really checking the family bible of schedules. Sd felt that he was asking my permission. I think too she knew that her wants were coming after another commitment.

Sd now data she always felt like an outsider.

Anyway about 6 years I lost my job. I decided it was time to go back to school for my MBA. I turned most things over to DH to manage, focused on my kids and myself. I was tired of the entitlement and issues that bm was causing. I was setting myself up to get a better job, to get the heck outta dodge. We were in marriage counseling for the entire program.

Looking back dh relationship with his kids started changing when I started focusing on my kids. Their attitudes changed. I wonder if the micromanaging I was doing we were compatting the PAS (wasnt severe but existed).

Now his kids barely have anything to do with him. Both saying things like our house is boring. That they feel like an outsider. That they put everything but him first.

Currently bm send an email that has issues that need addressed.

I've reminded him. He's trying not to address it.