I am new on this forum, although I have been reading the entries for some time. I am just at wit's end and thought I would come on here and vent.

Sorry up front, but this will be long! I have surfed all over the web trying to find a scenario quite like this one and have had no luck! So here goes!

My DH wants to adopt my son, who is now 21. My son's dad is a useless person. My son was born and raised and currently lives in North Carolina. He is a college student. We live in Mississippi.

Hi everyone,

I am new to this board. I'm not even sure where to start. I'll try to keep it short but even the abbreviated story will be long.

I met my husband three years ago, and we married last October. He has four adult kids. SS 26, SD 23, SD 21, and SD 18.

My oldest SS turned 24 this month. We had him over for dinner and birthday cake.

Nellie: Do you feel like a grown up?
SS24: (Looking kind of shocked at the question.) No.

Kind of reminded me of when I asked him a few months ago if he had a 5 year plan. He laughed and said No. I don't think he has a 5 minute plan.

Hi

How does you adult stepkids call your parents nan and grandad?

The reason I ask is that I use to call my step-grandparents nan and grandad but don't know. Now I just see them as my step-mums parents.

I have been married to my husband for 10 years. Things have always been pretty good with my 3 step-daughters, who are now 26, 24 and 19. I have always coached their teams, and been there for them in every way, shape and form. I have especially done a ton for the 19-year-old. All three haven't spoken to us for 3 months, and the youngest one is blaming me for everything going on in her life. She went as far as telling her dad that it's her or me. She wants us to split. She has always lied and been manipulative, but has never been this bold about it. My husband, his family, and my family completely support me. Their former high school teachers (those who know the girls well) totally support me also. My question is...why now? I thought this would be the time when I could concentrate on my younger kids, etc. and now I'm constantly upset about 3 girls who aren't even here. Help!

How do other SM's handle adult step children who are basically good, but who by their lack of courtesy cause you grief? Here is my story. This is the 2nd year in a row that I have not recieved even a verbal Happy Mother's Day from any of my 4 adult SS's (aged 21 - 30) or their significant others.

My wifes 37 year old son that has never been married, has no children, and has a college degree has been living and sleeping in our family room for the past year.

Am I an un-empathetic jerk for wanting him OUT?

No, not American Idol. I am talking about American Idle, the new class of adult children that resist work or anything resembling work, have no plans for the future, think of no one but themselves, and think that we parents have no choice but to house and pay for them for the rest of their lives.

Hi

The reason I ask is on friday my dad and step-mum bought our lo a stroller and then afterward my dad secretly gave me like £300. Which I am happy but feel why does he have to hide it.

I know in the past my step-mum hated my dad taking me out on my own. She felt I got more than my step-brother and half-brothers. I feel I got less but to her I got more. I did live with my mother which my mum never could afford to buy me stuff my dad got me.

My husband tends to tell me little white lies in an effort to cover up for something that one of my SS’s or their spouses has done. I know he does this as a peace keeper, but it concerns me that he is not being totally honest with me about things.

I don't know but I am irratated when I constantly hear my adult stepchildren referring to their parents only as mommy and daddy. not "my mom", "My mother", BUT "MOMMY this, Daddy that, etc.... When they discuss their other parent in front of me it's "MOMMY..", Recently in a AOL away message a stepdaughter posted, "out to lunch with Daddy". She is 23 years old and this is a work related AIM! Pardon me, but didn't most of stop doing that at nine?

Once upon a time there was a 3 year old that was still breastfeeding. Of course this was a child old enough to eat a hamburger and carry on a conversation, but he still wanted to nurse. It was embarrassing to everyone, except the 3 year old that was too immature to feel embarrassment. His friends teased him, and his siblings, even younger ones, were happily weaned and independent from mommy's breast. One day the day came when mommy said no more. The 3 year old felt unloved and tossed aside, and screamed and cried. After a while he got over it and drank from his cup like a big boy and felt proud of himself, and his friends no longer teased him. Mommy was much happier to be independent and spent more time with Daddy.