She runs luke warm & cold with me! Since they were older when I came into the picture, I have always kind-of left the ball in both SD's courts as far as what kind of relationship they were comfortable having with me. I don't throw myself at them...lets go here..let's do this..call them to chat..push a relationship..or anything but I have made many, many gestures towards them over the last 5 years or so....!

Something bothered me the other night when my new husband and I were looking at our wedding pics online. We were snuggled up on the couch, looking at the photos together and having a great time remembering our big day last month. Then he came across the ones with his little boy in them and became like a man possessed, trying to find ALL of the ones with SS in them. He was happy looking at our pictures, but 10 times happier seeing the ones of SS. I felt kinda shoved aside. How could I say anything without seeming jealous of a child?!

Well, in a surprising turn, my husband called biomom this morning after I called him at work and read him the blog from SD's site. He went out to his truck and called me back to call biomom and threatened her with lawsuit in regards to harassment and namecalling on SD's blogsite. She immediately buckled and will do anything to clear up the matter. SD was forced to apologize and is shutting down xanga site, and retracted entry on www.myspace.com.

So my husband and I normally get his kids every Thursday night and keep them over night and then take them to school, or back to where ever on Friday or keep them unitl she gets home. It has been this wasy for 4 years. So last night comes, my husband calls her 4 times, (4 on her cell, 4 at her home) no answer, we call the SS's cell phone, no answer, we call the biomom's parents, no answer. He left messages and still no call. So my question how do we get her in trouble.

I would like some advice on this one please. The biomom of our son does not pay her child support agreement to the court like the order states. Every now and then she pay my husband $50.00 (not very often). We just found out she is $17000.00 in the rears and there is a warrant for her arrest.

Well, I am still upset with the ongoing blog issue stuff going on with my estranged SD. She has made an entire additional post and is now blaming me that we moved away, she will never apologize to me, and wrote that I should basically f^^%$$ off and she wishes I were six feet under, but she would apologize to her Dad and forgive him, because she loves him. Then she wrote on her blog in big bold letters that I am an internet stalker and can be likened to a pedophile. She also says I should call her and talk to her, she is not afraid of me, or I should write her a letter.

Well not much to report other than nothing much has happened.

Trying to figure this site out and how it woks

Iam so thankful I found this site, I can finally relases my feelings to someone. It is very hard being the Step mom. The mom, that looks after the son and does it all. I have so much anger and hurt inside. I am the mom who takes care of all and gets the bad behavior from my stepson. I don’t like calling him that because in my heart he is mine. I have been the acting mom now for 11 years. Now all of a sudden the bm wants to spend more time with him and plays mind games with him. I have a really hard time

Does anybody else speculate that her husband is overindulgent with his kid(s) because he feels some guilt over not being the full-time parent?