I was sitting here wondering why being a SM is so difficult...is it because being women we want control over our household..so we take over with his kids? we discipline, buy all the clothes, do the groceries, clean the house, cook, do laundry, make the doctor appointments, arrange all playdates..etc.....

I'm curious what you think because I'm starting to wonder if I should sit back and let dad raise his child and I will be the nice one that doesn't get involved and then I can be the wonderful SM....any thoughts on this would be appreciated....

Well gift number one went back the day before and the rest are going back sunday because if the hour drive to toys r us to. (gotta go over there anyway) I actually feel good about and if ever asked. "Wheres my christmas gifts. Well you made a choice to not come see your father for the holidays so we made a choice to take your gifts back." Maybe a little mean but whatever.

Monday my husband's brother past away from a massive heart attack. He wasn't just my husband's brother but his best friend and almost like a father figure to him. He was only 52. He lived alone. He was never married and didn't have any children. It has become my husband's responsiblity to take care of everything because his parents passed away several years ago. He has another brother but he's kind of slow to put it niceley.

I'm 8 months pregnant and as a gift to myself, I bought a really comfortable rocking chair. It helps with my back pain now, and I'm planning to use it for nursing when the baby arrives. It was expensive and a splurge for us, but I really wanted a nice chair for relaxing. I haven't been sleeping well and sitting in the chair seems to be one of the few ways I can rest right now.

Yeah, before DH and I were married, SS saved up enough money and dad allowed him to to buy himself a Wii. I guess as a single dad, you don't foresee the problems this would cause.

So, fast forward... we married and now we have Wii Fit FOR THE FAMILY, Net Flix streaming FOR THE FAMILY and my BS has also gotten various Wii games as well.

Ok, my H and I have been tossing around divorcing, although we haven't said the D word, recently. It all started when I told him I wanted us to have a schedule of when we would have SD12. (1. so we don't have to be on hold for when BM wants to dump the kid on us.) 2. So we can make plans for things 3. So we can have a say on when she will come and are not at the mercy of BM. ) Well, apparently that was way too much to ask and it has just caused a real stink. How dare I? So anyway, we have been going back and forth about whether we wanted to work it out.

Came in from work this morning & checked the messages... seems we got a call from a children's crisis counselor yesterday & missed the call. Given that yesterday was day one of the new "uniform look" I have a feeling I will be losing my mind shortly. Keep DH & I in your prayers and thoughts that we keep our cool. I'll keep you updated.

Just a quick note as I am at work (not supposed to be on social networking sites and I am sure our IT dept will consider this one!)

FIL woke the skids (and DH and I) up this morning at 4am with the loudest whistle I have ever heard in my LIFE!! By 4:05 the skids were in the backyard doing... PUSHUPS!!! Except Skid#4, his arm is in a cast so he was doing crunches. They got an hour of excercise, including running around the block with FIL following them in a car!!

... But I was informed tonight by SO that BM had sent him a long email. She is wanting to increase the time that we have the children. At the moment we have them every Tuesday and EOW. She wants to increase EOW from Fri/Sat nights to Fri/Sat/Sun nights and then look at the possibility of having them 50/50.

I have been living with a hate filled - h a t e f i l l e d - rotten teenager for two and a half years. I have had my property damaged, stolen, destroyed, have been constantly called names and have had to parent the father to parent his son lest no parenting but screaming and yelling empty threats that do not correspond with reality persist so that I start to pity the delinquent who just got off probation for assaulting his mother because he turned 18.