I have had it. Sunday, SD 24 came over to visit DH-I know-DH told her not to come over b/c of the dog incident, but as usual, the went by the wayside. Anyway, on a lighter note, she was decent, asked how I felt after the accident, and didn't run over anymore animals (I put the dogs in the house when she left....). During our little visit, DH reminded me that we needed to give SD a check for 1/2 her rent. We had agreed that if she is in school, we would help her with her rent :sick: Her rent is $300-so I wrote a ckeck for $150.

So just called, It is the best case scenario. The Judge told BM she needed to get rid of her anger and start putting her children first. He told her she had to take a parenting class and gave her a month to sign up for it.

He clarified the holiday's and told them that there would be no changes to the CO unless both people agreed to it, then it had to be put in writing and signed off by both of them.

Been with my BF for over a year and in the beginning he still catered to BM he slowly saw the light and has changed. So I don't have too much to complain about and the BM is pretty worthless as a mother but she leaves us alone for the most part.

The mother of my stepchildren is in the process of adopting a one year old child.

The stepmother of my own children is pregnant.

My husband pays child support and has 50/50 custody, it's true 50/50 but where dad has residential for school purposes. All health insurance and daycare are his responsibility. Copays for medical and dental is 60(Dad)- 40(Mom).

Why do you suppose that posters like SMOKIA are able to bully people who sincerely need help and come to this site to vent..........

AND ALL THE ADMINS DO IS KICK OFF LONG TERM (helpful) MEMBERS???

I'm sure I will be next...

My DH is looking to take a few classes at the community college to feel a little more proactive in life. I fully support him and offered to watch SS6 on the evenings of class.

So, this has been an ongoing battle for about 7 1/2 years now! My SS7's BM is probably one of the most incompetant parents I've ever heard of! She never has her son, he's always with her parents, and if her parents can't watch him, she'll make up some excuse to us so that we have him. Which is great, because we want him as much as possible, but she is CONSTANTLY using him as a pawn.

I am exhausted, emotionally and mentally exhausted. I do not know how to keep doing this. Disengaging a bit helps when SS is there, but now we are fighting over him when he isn't there......

Yesterday, SO participated in SS's counseling session - remember, he needed to go because it was not fair that he only had 1/3 of the closet when he is only with us something like 36% of the time. SO had promised that he would address the issues with the counselor - the lying, the manipulatio, the disrespect, and so on.

For those of you that have read my blog, you know that I am resident SM to SS8 & SD7. They have, as of late, been making my life miserable. I haven’t blogged about my resident Skids much as I don’t feel that their behavior is that off as far as age appropriateness goes. SO has been making vain threats lately as well which I think makes him look silly when they chose to break the rules. I certainly don’t expect him to make SS wear an orange t-shirt to school that say’s “PRISONER” on it for lying but I also would expect him to throw things at them that he’s willing & able to do.

My DH has decided to seek full custody of SS13 since his mother is such a piece of work...unstable, dates abusive men, no job, etc. My question is, how much should I be involved in the legal process of all of this? Should I expect to attend mediation with DH? Or should I just sit back quietly?