I have my SS8 and SD11 over every Wenesday evening and every other weekend. The SD and I were always "OK" with each other, I never was that crazy about her, but I love her none-the-less. We have had some good times together, but I know she is a total Daddys girl and now it is really pissing me off.

I have already accepted the whole "broken family" "Issues with BM" "Coming into puberty" blah blah blah BS...

I have 2 rules in the house:

1. Bedtime on friday is 10:00pm and Bedtime on Saturday is 10:30p,
2. Everyone sleeps in thier own beds.

I work ALOT on the weekends and I value my sleep. DH and I do not share the same bed anymore due to his snorning. His bedroom is right next to mine. Like CLOCKWORK every Friday when they are over SD INSISTS in sleeping where ever her Dad is sleeping. DH placates me and makes them goto bed, but in the middle of the night SD sneeks out and always ends up in his room watching movies til 3am. DH says this is how they "bond" but it makes me feel every uncomfortable, because I value my provacy when I am sleeping and he thinks it is bull shit.

Last weekend SD told DH while I was out with SS, that I was "mean" and I "destroy all her fun". I work so much on the weekends, she normally has DH all to herself, and when I get home I would like to relax and feel a part of the family, but lately that has been impossible with her. She routinely crosses the line with me and I have just about had enough. DH says I rag on her all the time, but I honestly cannot find the good in this kid right now. DH and I had a big fight in front of her way back, and DH basically said I was "Stupid" for some way I felt about the kids behavior and I think she has become empowered from that.

I by all means do not want to drive a wedge between SD and DH. And I have gone the "ignor and not say anything route" and it hurts a lot. especially when I am being quite and DH makes fun of me in front of the kids.

Now, I find out that the kids text him constantly from thier Ipods which were always supposed to stay at our home. But I know he lets them take them home now so they can contact him. It kind of makes me sick that he is so desperate for thier attention. So, desperate that he never really told me the ipods were going home with the kids and I figured this all out on my own.

DH and I have been though SOOOO much sice we got together and I really need to make sure we are solid and stable before I can start engrossing myself in his kids again. But he doesn't seem to think it is any big deal that I feel shaky right now.

I want the fighting to stop but I feel like shit just keeping my mouth shut. And when I do open it, I never win anyways... I am beginning to think what is the point.

Help.... Anyone???