What did I do to get them to hate me?

I have been married to my husband for 4 years. He has 4 children from a previous marriage. They are 22, 20, 16, and 11 and they do not like me. They used to, but then my husband filed for a modification on his divorce from their mother because he agreed to pay for a lot of things besides paying child support and when the oldest child went to college, she chose an out of state 4 year university that costs a lot more than he anticipated. He won the modification and since then, 3 of his 4 children don't visit and his youngest is very disrespectful to both of us when she comes here. What to do?

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It sounds like they do not

It sounds like they do not like you or DH very much. Where you the other woman? Did DH agree to pay for something for the skid and then changed his mind?

Well, duh.... Daddy was

Well, duh....
Daddy was taking care of their needs and then some, and then you came around and ruined it.

Just because I'm curious...will he NOT have to help the other 3 kids through college?

he probably listed that he

he probably listed that he couldn't afford as much due to having a wife to support now too
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I would almost guarantee that he did NOT put that in any paperwork! He would get laughed out of court. The court does not care about new children, much less new wives... lol.

But I would not put it past BM to tell the skid that is why he did it.

Not much you can do. The

Not much you can do. The skids are never happy if they think your DH can't continue to pay for all they want because now YOU are in the picture. I have the same issues, so much that my SO's kids actually said they have issues with me because they think since I'm with SO that MY comfort level has improved. I called BS with this, I was doing just fine by myself, and SO would be living the way he's living with or without me. They are kids, they listen to their BM, who tells them they are entitled to anything they want from their dad. This is the generation of entitlement. I'm sure even if your DH pointed out to the skids that he could afford an instate college, but not out of state, and when he agreed to do college he never thought it would so expensive and that is the reason for the modification, it would not make any difference.