DH brings on Disneyland.
DH actually told me this weekend that he only sees the kids 2 days a week and he just wants them to have fun while they are here.
THIS because we had about 3 weekends of doing schoolwork with them and I wasn't home this Sunday so none got done, none on Sat either even though I asked him about it. Nothing got done because he didn't feel like enforcing, because he has come to realize that helping kids with school work means he has to put in a lot of time and energy, because I have taken a back-seat.
Sucker didn't even last a month. Now, I guess he believes it's BM's job mainly. I told him that if I were to die, I feel very sad for my OWN children.
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fdh used to say the same crap
fdh used to say the same crap about sd20. he just wanted her to have fun and enjoy herself when she was here, because it was her escape from bm. :? i thought we had a home, not a resort. furthermore, when her "having fun and enjoying herself" means making non stop messes, getting into my things, being loud and just generally turning my home and life upside down for 2 days twice a month, i have a f'g problem with that.
My H too, only we have 50/50.
My H too, only we have 50/50. He would let the kids go through my draws, eat whatever - whenever they wanted, stay up all night in the summer, stay up until 12:00 on a school night on the computer, makes messes all over the house leaving clothes and dishes. It was a free for all!
He finally start enforcing a few rules last year, but it's been pure hell. The kids have no boundaries and fell entitled to do as they please.
He had the same reasoning as your DH and he wanted to them to enjoy themselves when they were here. I told him they need a PARENT not a friend.
Don't forget the F'in Disney
Don't forget the F'in Disney Moms! Good God, after a 3 week summer visit, SD came back expecting us (full-time caretakers of her for 3 yrs) to take her for ice cream every night, play games every night (even when homework isn't done), eat junk food at all hours, no cleaning room, no brushing teeth, not even changing underwear!
Needless to say, she started failing school when she returned to us. Before she went for the summer, her teacher wanted to put her in the "gifted" class. What a joke!
Guess that's the effect of BM being absent for 3 fucking years and suddenly taking her for a few weeks of non-stop FUN.
My FDH says this too, it
My FDH says this too, it drives me crazy! Just because you want them to have fun they can ignore what we tell them to do and we have to clean up after them?! I think not!