HUGE blow up with sd13
Forgive misspelling, I am on my phone. I have been doing my best to teach sd good sleeping habits. I am a diagnOsed insomniac, and I know how important sleep is.
All summer she claimed how she couldn't sleep at night, she needed meds. (side note, I do not take meds because of the side effects). I told her that was crap, she just stays up too late and sleeps too late.
Ff to now, she is sleeping fine. This is after struggling to get her drooling ass off the couch and back in bed. I don't like when they nap in the living room, it goes back to promoting those bad sleep habits, they drool, and they glare when I make noise cleaning (not that it stops me). This morning sd comes back from her $30 trim at the salon, and Dj takes the dog out. She immediately plops into the couch and curls up. I said if you are going to nap, please go in the bed room. She quickly got attitude, began yelling. This is not the first conversation we have had about this. I told her it was not a negotiation. She stays awake, goes to the bedroom on her own, or I will take her in there like a little baby. Sure enough she chose option c. I followed through. I didn't hurt hit, but picked her up and plopped her on the floor in her room.
Dh comes in from walking the dog, asks what's going on. I tell him. He asks why it's a big deal!!! Two weeks ago we were on the same page and in agreement with this or I never would have said anything about it. Now he's mad, are you fucking kidding me...for calling your brats bluff on something that was a rule a week ago?!?! I tried to explain the manipulative hateful things she does when he is away that get me to that point, but of course he doesn't believe that.
He in no way thinks she is a saint, but that I have her pegged wrong. Ha, we shall see when she ends up knocked up in a year. I told him I was done filling that void in her life the counselor seems to think I need to be a part of. She obviously doesn't want me there. Unless it involved her immediate death , I'm out!! Being on a pedicure !!
Oh yeah, and I'm at the doctor because I am currently COVERED in a rash I am 99% sure is stress related. I have a feeling we will be upping my anxiety meds!
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You physically picked up a
You physically picked up a thirteen year old and dropped her on the floor of her room?
God Almighty, I'm appreciating my DH as a stepfather more and more.
Your SD's sleeping habits are none of your concern. If you have insomnia, as I do, that sucks. But don't put your issues onto her.
If you DH and you had an agreement and plan of action together, then you and DH need to have a little chat. He clearly changed his mind without talking to you. Or... did he never really agree with you and doesn't see a problem with it?
Hey, rules are rules and if
Hey, rules are rules and if the house rule is no napping on the couch then plopping her ass in her room as promised is the right way to go. She was defying you and she was held accountable. If she continues to defy you and yell at you as she did this round I would move to a belt to her bare ass in the next round. 13 is not too old to get a belt to the bare ass.
Accountability is a key if not THE key lesson that truly quality parents instill in their children regardless of if they are Skids or BKs. Obviously her father is failing as a parent in this regard and you are the only REAL parent this young lady has.
Until your DH figures out how to be a REAL parent ... way to go .... Mom!
Thank you rags. I didn't
Thank you rags. I didn't harm her in any way. I didn't smack her, though I was angry. I RELOCATED HER, as I had told her would be the consequence. And yes, my Dh was in agreement to this rule when we bought this couch, and enforced it in the past. As I have previously posted in response to your somewhat harsh critism... Please read my blogs before judging. To those that are supportive and let me VENT, thank you.
Stepcop, her sleeping habits
Stepcop, her sleeping habits ARE your concern when she has her ass plopped on your sofa in the middle of the damn day or any other time. I think you should follow through like this every time she breaks the rule that you and her father AGREED on.
What's she gonna do? Tell someone you picked her up and carried her to her room? I think not.
I think you did PERFECT!!
I think you did PERFECT!! She's now learned that you can & will hold her accountable!!! Bravo!!!