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This is the first time I have done any thing like this but I need some advice and do not know where to turn. I have tried talking to hubby about this but no resolution.
Back ground: SK is now 20 and lived with us from 2 until 18 then left to go to be with BM which she ran away to do that . No word from her or nothing until graduation which we went to and tried to have a relationship, and no word until here recently when BD sent her a message that he would like a relationship before he dies. well now she wnats to be back in and all and me and my kids our kids have put up with the bad moods and all the running around trying to find her and such. And now he wants us all to be a big happy family and forgive her. Well she bad mouthed me and told my sons she never wanted to speak to htem bc they stopped her mom and dad from getting back together. I tried to talk to her and nothing she does not wnat to talk to me I am not her family but when she lived here I was her bf as she said and did everythign for her. Well even when she lived here he alwasy took her side and BM side on everythign if Bm called and said I did something wrong my butt got chewed no questions asked. So now he is chewing on me saying I am the reason she will not talk to the kids and that I need to fix this. well she has stated a few times that i am nto her family and she does not have to talk to me. So what do I do bc it is causing great difficulties between me and hubby and he is sort with our kids but her he is offering money my car all kinds of things and I cna not deal with it. I want to be with him and will do what it takes but will not live bending over backwards for Bm which she calls him about once a week and SK always causing crap for me and OUR kids.
Please suggestions.