So BM tells DH that she doesn't need the child support
Dh says really because you are still taking my support for TWO kids and one moved out in may and you dont think it should retroactivate to the court date.
So I'm sorting thru this in my head:
This is the third time to re-establish support in 3 years (yeah SD going to college, then moving home, then moving out)
This time you wanted overtime, and bonus money
You went after DH to pay for everything you deemed appropriate
You again hid any additional income
In the last three years you've asked for dh to pay medical and dental.
However I have been divorced for 18 years. I have never taken exh to court
I only asked for money when I needed it
So what I want to say is BM if you aren't needing the money why are you reacting this way?
Because she's a b...ch. Most
Because she's a b...ch. Most don't try to increase cs because they needed, they do it because they can and like to control the ex.
Oops need it...
Oops need it...
OMG! This is happening over
OMG! This is happening over here too, something very similar! SO gets a text saying BM1 is only going to be on 1/2 pay for 2 months so can he pay for XYZ? SO ignores, she repeats, he finally says "If you are having difficulties, I can take custody of SS". OMG, you would've thought he offered to kill his child by the way she reacted. Her first steaming psycho text stated "Don't worry about my finances."
Well OK then, we will assume you do not need us to pay for XYZ then!!!!
BM tried taking DH to court
BM tried taking DH to court for more money the moment we got married AND her alimony was done.
She tried telling the court that because alimony was done, she was "entitled" to more CS.
(I guess $1400 a month for a then 5 and 7 year old, when you live with your parents isn't enough??)
They told her she had to demonstrate a "need" for more money, not just "want", as alimony is unrelated to CS.
The court told her that she would not be getting any more money, that she already receives enough. On top of that, they told her that if she needs more money, that getting a job would be the way to go at this point in her life.
That was two years ago, and I am still laughing.
But I did tell DH that the next time she complains about wanting more money, that we can offer to take full custody of the skids. He won't do that, but it was funny. It would certainly be cheaper for them to live here with us than for us to pay her $1400 a month.
"Life is too short to keep looking back."
WOW! I want to hug your
WOW! I want to hug your judge!
They really told her she has to have a 'need' for more of your DH's money? I'm still reeling in shock over that one.
I would remind BM of that every chance I get, just to piss her off. 'Remember what the judge said!!!!!'
She may not NEED it, but she
She may not NEED it, but she WANTS it. Big difference!
Stick a fork in me... I'm done...
But remember, from now on,
But remember, from now on, when she asks for extra, he can confidently tell her "that's what CS is for"...if she tells the kids "daddy isn't paying for your whatever, so you can't go", he can turn it back to them and say, "actually, I pay your mom every month and last time we talked she said she didn't really need the money I send to her, so she should have plenty."
BM tried to go to court
BM tried to go to court asking for $2400 a month in CS - that is what she wanted. She got ordered to pay DH $110 a month based on the actual calculation and the NEED.
That still cracks me up.
Regulation #5
You are entitled to food, shelter and medical attention. Anything else is a privilege.
Tired...
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"Life is too short to keep looking back."
BM told the skids that DH
BM told the skids that DH only pays for one of them....W.T.F.
DH told them that he pays BM for BOTH of them, not just one. This came up when SD needed a tennis racket for tennis lessons that occur on BM's time, and I told SD that BM can buy her the racket, as this is one of many things that her father pays CS for. We bought her cello here, as she takes lessons on our time and it was our idea. We didn't ask BM for a dime, and the cello goes back and forth. Let that bitch actually use the money on the skids instead of herself!
"Life is too short to keep looking back."
I have to say that in my
I have to say that in my opinion if you have not held the father of your children responsible for supporting them then you have denied your children the security of knowing that their dad gave a shit enough to help support them and knowing that their mother gave a shit enough about them to make sure their dad was participating in their support.
People too often forget that CS is really about the kids and not the X-Spouse or oppostion bio-parent and whether the CP needs it or not is irrelevent.
We never needed a penny from my SS's SpermIdiot but we damned sure held his nuts to the fire to support his oldest child. Though CS was never more than a pittance we made sure every penny was paid and paid on time. Unfortunately we could not have the courts mandate that DipShit had to pay his own CS obligation to my SS. SpermGrandMa paid it for him. We also made sure that as the SpermIdiot added more and more out-of-wedlock spawn to his brood we protected my SS's right to an equity share of the SpermIdiot's resources and by extension the resources of the entire SpermClan.... since they paid DipShits CS obligations for him.
We never wanted our son to hear that his SpermIdiot and SpermClan did not care enough about him to support him, even if that support was rediculously and insultingly miniscule.
Sorry if I have a counter opinion but I believe it is a parents responsibility to set the example and that means holding the X accountable for supporting any joint children. PERIOD!!!!
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi with some minor Rags modifications
If you can't listen and learn you will have to feel. Quoted from my grandmother
I agree with this. I think
I agree with this. I think it does something for a child's self-worth to know that they matter enough to both of their parents for both of their parents to contribute to their well-being...monetary & otherwise.
"Women are angels & when someone breaks our wings we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible like that."