My husband and I have been married for 6 of the 12 yrs we have been together. The first five yrs we were together, we had his children (now 44, 42, 37) living with us. Then the next five yrs we had my kids (now 34, 33, 31) because they decided to moved out to WA, so we've had all of our kids living with us at some point up until the end of 2010. When I first got with him his daughters were very heavy into meth which was very hard for him to deal with, so he cut them out of his life. His oldest daughter (42), I'll call OD from here on out, has been clean for five yrs now. During the beginning of her process of getting her life back together, I would tell him how great she was doing and that she wanted to get back into his life. Well, he would tell me he wasn't ready, so I didn't push it because without warning he would get mad and would stay that way for days on end. Of course, I didn't want this so I would back out. Two years back, JKCC (his ex-wife) came down very ill, when he told me I thought that he should go see her because they had spent 30 yrs together and thought he should pay his respect to her. He would go every other day to be with her, which did not bother me because I had recently lost my oldest brother to cancer and his second wife treated my niece, nephew and his first wife awful and I in no way wanted to be like that. I understood she was dying and that he wanted to be there not only for her but for his daughters, so I was very understanding, but what I didn't expect to happen was he became so horrible and ugly to me, telling me all kinds of mean things. I tried to console him, letting him know that I understood what was happening and if he needed to talk to me, I would be here for him. Since her passing, things between us have not been the same. His daughters are back in our lives, which they should be, but he has cut me out and now shares everything with his OD. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad they have a relationship because she is his daughter, but I am now cut out of all holiday plans, family get togethers, and he always tells me we don't have money to do anything, but then will spend hundreds of dollars on a Sunday dinner that he and his OD have planned. He doesn't call me anymore, but they talk several times a day; everyday. If I get a five minute call in the mornings before work, I'm fortunate. For the past 11 yrs, I've received a call most every morning; well, except when he gets upset at me for nothing and doesn't talk to me for about a week. [Some of the reasons he has gotten angry: 1.) He gets off between 11:30am and 12 noon everyday. I get off a 4pm. Well, his granddaughter needed stockings, so I asked him if he wanted to pick them up since he was already off or should I? 2.) I'm stopping at _____ and picking up something for dinner. What would you like? 3.) Suggest maybe we should only buy one instead of two of something. Tells me don't tell him how to spend his money (I've had that thrown up in my face numerous times. BTW, I do work and direct deposite half my paycheck into our joint account which I might add I have never used any money in that account.) These are just a few] Anyways, besides telling me he can't call in the morning (Oh, works for the same company with the same schedule) because now he's too busy, and now when I call he says he can't hear his phone ringing, but when I check our cell phone bill, I can see that he answers and talks to his OD for half hour and more which is fine, but then don't tell me you're too busy to take my call. Another thing that is happening, every Sunday she comes to our house and every other weekend we are now getting his grand daughter from her paternal grandmother because his OD wants to spend more time with her. Not to mention when she visits, the two of them go off together and sit and chat. If I walk up, I get this look like I've intruded and they stop talking, so I'm left to feel that way and decide to walk away. Just this past weekend, his OD, her daughter and her daughter's friend came to visit. They all pair off and I'm left alone. I try to get him to talk about what's wrong, but he won't, so I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm all alone. I still love him. He says he loves me, but I'm not feeling it. He gets mad for no reason, won't kiss, hug or call me. Then he decides he wants sex and wants me to initiate it and gets upset if I don't. Honestly speaking, I don't feel like it especially when he has been treating me like crap. I really don't think I'm wrong and feel he should apologize for treating me badly, but if I say anything; he gets mad again. Sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel, but I do think that's what his OD wants me to do. This past weekend, she stated mouthing, "It's all bout me (her)!" and you know, it has been.