I don't know how he can handle it. The kid is hanging all over him. Literally. Laying all over his lap, hanging around his neck...
DH walks into the bathroom, the kid waits outside the door.
If DH stops walking, the kid will literally bump into him.
DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD! DAD!
Then god forbid if my own DH tries to talk to me or sit next to me. SS practically loses his mind. He's SOOOOOOO BORED!!!!
Now, on an intellectual level I look at the kid and I feel sorry for him. He may be almost 11 years old, but his "need" for his dad is still at a 6 or 7 year old level. I would say that, clearly, his step-dad isn't fulfilling that certain need. The kid appears absolutely STARVED for male attention. Which is really, really sad. Too bad BM can't see what I see...
However, on a "I have to look at it and pretend it's not weird" level -- it's super annoying.
I honestly don't know how DH can handle it.
On a personal note for what directly impacts ME: my DH better take care of the fact that the kid has been ASKED 3 times to not sit on the arm of the sofa. I've let DH do it his way. If I catch the kid doing it just one more time, I'm going to do it my way. And my way doesn't include ASKING.
Fuck I hate having him here. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I hate it.
He is so freaking intrusive.
Now the kid is whining about the fact that I'm watching TV and he wants to play the Wii. Oh hell to the no. That shit is NOT going to happen again this weekend!!!!