feelings of uneasiness around ss15

I posted earlier but I have another topic on my mind lately too. This has been concerning me ever since I moved in with my dh before we were even married; I have always felt almost a sensation of my skin crawling, my antenea vibrating or just an overall uneasiness whenever ss15 walks into the room. I am ultra aware of where he is and what he's doing at all times, even when he's in his room, which is where he is most of the time lately. Everything about this kid irks me from his droopy sleepy eyed face to his talking and even the way he walks. I don't see my dh in him at all which is really good, this must mean he is more like bm and since I've only seen her up close once I don't know what her personality is like. If any of you have ever watched "Badder Santa", the little fat red haired boy Santa befriends is a lot like my ss15. Ss15 is now taller, thinned down and his hair is always kept buzzed, but he's socially a bit awkward and just kinda different. He has been diagnosed with a syndrome so I try to be careful to not let any of this obviously bother me. I have a disabled child too, but the way I react to his presence is really bothering me. I'd like to know what some of you smoms have done in this situation and what worked and what didn't work to be more comfortable in your own home.

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My SS15 is also a total

My SS15 is also a total creepy freak...but I am slightly scared of him too so I try to be a neutral as possible, and I force myself to smile if he is making an attempt to be nice (which is rare). I'm worried because we live together, but he paces outside the bathroom when I am using it and does other eerie things I won't go into here, but I feel like he is a sociopath (also diagnosed with Aspergers) that could go off at any second. I've seen him unleash his hate on his own sister and it is very scary, he has even hit her and justifies it and she is 5 years younger. I worry that if he knows my true feelings for him he might come after me someday. He was reading the book IT by Stephen King and told me on a drive home from school that he didn't get why some people find the book disturbing. Really?

He has lots of social problems, and doesn't get other people's emotions or facial expressions and always has a canned response that is supposed to seem sympathetic when someone is hurt or feels bad. Its all very unnerving to live with someone that irks you.

I generally don't interact with him if I don't have to and make him ask for DH to take him to do/buy things. I made this mistake once and now he is constantly telling me things that he would like to own in hopes that I will take him out to buy them for him.

Like dtzyblnd, I have never been able to get over my feelings either, not as long as he stays this way. After four and a half years of marriage every year he seems to be getting worse.

Well, it's not getting worse

Well, it's not getting worse for me b/c now we are in a bigger house so he doesn't use the same bathroom as me, he's mostly in his own room but the rec room is next to the diningroom and kitchen and if he's on the xbox it annoys me so much I will stop everything I am doing, turn off all burners and oven, and go upstairs until he's done. DH rarely sits and plays xbox anymore with him and since dh works 14 hour days now ss is so much on his own. I take my boys places and we go for walks and sit and watch tv, ss never participates or comes along. He must be a pretty lonely kid but he never asks to go anywhere or asks for anything except now to borrow bs's phone or dh's phone since he broke his by smashing it on his desk in anger. He has anger issues but it rarely shows up but when it does he get very volatile. I just leave.

I just feel sad about this whole thing. I never met a kid in my life I don't at least somewhat like, but I cannot stand my two ssons. The older one is moved out now so not as big of an issue anymore but it was last year. Ss15 NEVER goes to bm's and hasn't even seen her or talked with her in over a year or so.

I hold on to the fact that in about 31/2 years he will be GONE! Then it's just the skids coming for visits.

Now what can I do about a little brown furry mutt I cannot stand? It's dh's dog and he'd never forgive me for giving it away. Grrrr.....Maybe I just won't feed, water it or cut it's hair anymore. (yes I actually bought a buzzer to cut the dang dog's hair b/c it was costing too much of our precious money to take it in for haircuts every 3 months. Costs less for me to get my hair done for petes sake)

You're not alone!! My SS11

You're not alone!! My SS11 totally creeps me out as well. I can totally relate to your entire post. It sucks, but it is what it is. I'm just very very thankful we aren't custodial!! Eekk!!!

we are 100% custodial. every

we are 100% custodial. every now and then i WIIIISH he'd go BAAACK to bm. Just LEEEAAVE :jawdrop:

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