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Submitted by vj on Wed, 07/18/2012 - 7:14pm

What do i do ????
Step kids 12,14yrs girls wanted to come and live with me . Set them up in Private school own rooms
Find out they have been bitching and attacking me to there grandmother over everyday thing which now has turned into a rift between the mother in law and me. Im really hurt and Angry I went back to work full time leaving my 3,5yr so i could pay for private school. Feel like telling them to go back to there mothers Just know mother in law will be furious.

To send them back just creates another lot of issues having to deal with the Bmom (impossible)
Mother in law who has been good to me and her grandchildren to this point would be devastated. It would be irreconcilable with her. I just don't see any way to deal with it.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 07/18/2012 - 8:13pm

At the end of this school year they will need to find someone else to fund their education as you have to leave work. When they act all pissed off you tell them "Well, as you found the need to bad mouth me to your grandmother I cannot continue to support your excellent education for such ungrateful girls."

Meantime you have called grandma and told her the girls are lying and if someone like you is so mean and terrible then you better behave accordingly and stop paying for their $xx,xxx a year school. When grandma bitches you out tell her to STOP and answer your question... if you were really so mean and terrible why would you go to work to pay for their exclusive school while your child is in daycare?

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Submitted by stepmomto3bioto1 on Wed, 07/18/2012 - 11:00pm

^^^^^This, I would perhaps also drop hints like "I'm so glad you girls appreciate everything I do for you, and don't talk behind my back like some kids do. You two sure have it good, having such a great Stepmom like me. So & SO's stepdaughters pretended to really like her, but they were nasty to her & talked meanly about her to other people, so off they went, to the life they used to have. Nobody should have to live like that!!". Hehe.

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Submitted by guiltystepmom on Wed, 07/18/2012 - 11:17pm

DAMN RIGHT!

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Submitted by vj on Wed, 07/18/2012 - 11:55pm

Hi mate it wasn't to spoil the kid it was to give her a a opportunity to attend a top class school.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Thu, 07/19/2012 - 8:41am

VJ, it DOES spoil them. Top rate schools when you have to pay for them ARE a luxury and not compulsary. If they want to stay there they should appreciate your sacrifices or move back with their mother. The only child you are obligated to take care of is your child. Your DH is responsible for his own children and their education and welfare, not you.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 07/19/2012 - 8:48am

If her parents wanted her to attend a top class school, they should find a way to pay for it themselves.

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Submitted by Mom2TwinsnTeens on Thu, 07/19/2012 - 6:45am

Get a second job and send them off to boarding school. Buh-bye skids!

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Submitted by vj on Thu, 07/19/2012 - 6:08pm

Thanks for the feedback,
My girls are minded by there dad while im at work, He works of a evening for a couple of hrs.

Thanks oneoffour for your feedback but i feel i took part obligation on of these kids when i married there dad. I sealed it when i agreed to let them live with me full time.

After reading a few posts im starting to realize that its the nature of the beast for this situation
Someone needs to write a book and give it to all pending step mums and dads to pre warn what hard times are ahead.