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 OT - more than 2 legal parents? watch out SMs and SDs out there...Submitted by herewegoagain on Wed, 07/04/2012 - 6:57pmI just read this and thought...OMFG??? Soon, the courts will see SMs and SDs as an additional parent and well, we know the ONLY reason will end up being more money through CS...good luck to all. http://gma.yahoo.com/three-daddies-california-eyes-multiple-parenting-la...
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same reason I won't marry SO
same reason I won't marry SO until they are 18 years old.
Karma will find you and it has GPS!
Great post, your efforts are
Great post, your efforts are much appreciated. This is really useful info! Will look into this now for sure.
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I saw that article too.
I saw that article too. That's nuts. The article says all three parties (why stop at three, what if both parents have remarried?) have to work out visitation, custody and support. Can you imagine how complicated that would be?
The case that originated this should be treated like any other case of parents who are unable to care for their children and the state has to step in. Why not change the law to allow the bio-father to petition to care for the child?
Politicians and lawyers who grandstand in order to make a name for themselves or social engineer...
Hell no Im not going to
Hell no Im not going to parent or care for his kids! I would not consent to this.. and if we break up, I don't want anything to do with the skids.. Just cause Im living with a guy with kids doesn't mean I want to care for them. And thats why I keep my finances separate and I refuse to get married.
The third party in the
The third party in the original case was not married to either of the women, but I'm sure it's a little different because he is the biofather and has some kind of ongoing relationship with the child.
That makes me wonder, would it evolve into people being FORCED to be a legal parent?
In Texas we have a law that
In Texas we have a law that protects the step parents income from child support
I used to try and understand BM but I don't speak psycho!
I will get a divorce before
I will get a divorce before any court decides a) I'm a co-parent (I don't even want kids of my own, why would I want to take responsibility for those f-ed up brat skids of mine?), and b) I have to actually pay child-support for them. Over my dead body will BM ever touch a cent of my money.
"I'm AWARE I'm not your mother...because if I were, you WOULDN'T be acting like that."
agreed. i'm not married and
agreed. i'm not married and sd is 19, so it's a non issue, but if she were a minor and we were married, we would be getting a swift divorce. no way in hell would i spend a dime of my money on cs for her. not only did cs NEVER get spent on her, but i spent enough of my money on her as it was!
"I don't hold grudges. I remember facts."
Yep,this! Already raised my
Yep,this!
Already raised my own child, not raising and contributing financially to someone else's. PITA can get another job before she will come to rely on my money.
"Raising Children Is Like Being Pecked To Death By A Chicken."
dup
dup
"Raising Children Is Like Being Pecked To Death By A Chicken."
I understand that it's a good
I understand that it's a good thing to have a few adults as backup if it's a choice between that and letting kids go to foster care, but that it should be an actual law is questionable to me. Plus, do you know what kind of fight it would cause in my house when H tells me I'm responsible for them if anything happens to him and BM, and I refuse? Shit show.
"I'm AWARE I'm not your mother...because if I were, you WOULDN'T be acting like that."
If this becomes the law of
If this becomes the law of the land, I'm signing my rights away. LOL
If bio parents can walk away from their kids, I should be able walk away from kids that aren't mine.
^^Good plan!
^^Good plan!
"I'm AWARE I'm not your mother...because if I were, you WOULDN'T be acting like that."
Ummmm...don't show this to my
Ummmm...don't show this to my husband please.
SS10's mother's legal rights were revoked. I don't want anything legally binding me to SS10 right now.
Not to be cold, gawd knows I've poured tons of emotions, time and effort into this child, but right now
I'd not want zero responsibilities. I love being my husband's wife totally.
I just don't want to have to deal with any legal sort of anything. I mean, say this shit with SS10 gets
really bad to a point where I decide I can't raise him with my sons for their own safety and DH decides
he can't stay with me if I'm not going to do that, and suddenly, I'm being served for Child Support and
Medical/Dental coverage?????
Why me? My GU didn't labor to bring forth that Golden Egg! My DNA had nothing whatsoever to do with any
of what's wrong with him. And I didn't even get to enjoy the act of creating him to begin with. Yet, I
could be liable for paying out for his care?????
Those are the things I think about when reading that. Not the positives, like ensuring the kid has a stable
home life should something happen. If SS10 gets better, I'm sure that bonds and relationships will change
around here. And maybe somewhere down the road I'd be more open to that.
But, I'm the Debbie Downer. I look at worst case scenarios coz those are the one's that come out to bite u.
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My IPOD says you are full of bullshit!
This would work for my
This would work for my situation. Granted I have a rare DH who supports me as the mother figure of the house, and skids who don't totally suck ass. BM is a POS who would absolutely ruin SD14 if she lived with her again. My DH is battling cancer (in remission right now) and I would like to be able to legally keep SD should the worst happen.
I also hated having DH fill out a "permission slip" so I could talk to the school. Uh, hello. She's living in my home, I fulfill all her needs, etc. And dont get me started on medical stuff. SD hasnt gone to the dr in 2 years because they wont take her without medical records, which I nor DH can freakin get.